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Could it work?
I've began to chat with this man over the internet without searching for anything, he just happened to send me one innocent message, i replied, one led to another and soon began to talk on a regular basis for at least a couple of hours, first as 'friends' after a while totally other idea, telling each other very private, intimate things, wondering how can we understand & get along so well(incredibily well) despite the age difference (he's 33, 14 years younger than me)
we share a great deal of things, interests, ideas but just enough differences to make things interesting, plus the age difference(though he keeps telling me how mature than those of my age)
we talk about everything that's on our mind, serious or not, good or dark, and i trust him, hes very up-front and honest( he believes in honesty totally)& he says he does too
i'm just about to enter university (so ill be tied to one place at least for a couple of years) and for the summer i planned to go abroad somewhere and lately decided i could as well go to his(he's from another country) but for a short period only as i begin faculty in the fall
he got very enthusiastic, made me think if hes not expecting too much, though hes very realistic,prepared many things and set his schedule so that we could spend the time im there together in the best way possible, no strings attached (hes very generous, intelligent, funny, thoughtful, mature-what could i want more - of course with flaws like everyone
hes exactly the person which i am sure would make me happy and i in return, i really care about him tough i dont know at which extent, probably when ill finally meet him ill know
as the day of departure approaches(now hes in his birth country, communicating by sms/calls and rarely by internet) i started thinking whether this is meant to go anywhere he has basically the same worries as i have- from different countries, diff age, from my part different carrer plans-tough i plan to travel into foreign countries much as a living as soon as i get it done with my studies, a great deal fitsbut there are as well a lot that drive us apart
is there any chances of working, survival - he said than if were the case, for love,me hed do anything in his power stay together
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sorry i messed up, i wanted to say he's 14 older than me, not younger
im aware that each of us has its flaws and qualities and he, himself made sure i know that his hardly perfect
thanks for the advice, it really helps
Most relationships have the chance of working. So keep up hope. But also keep an open eye, you barely know this guy. He seems perfect, but no one is. The trouble with finding love is not in finding the perfect mate, its finding the mate with the flaws you can live with. Go for it, just be safe, keep an open and wary eye. Don't jump in until you feel ready and comfortable, and know that if he's worth it, you can make it work.
You know, I really think the question is not "can I make it work?" but "is he worth making it work for?" When you can answer that question, then you're on the road to something long term. Let us know how it goes.