Asked by MISS TEE on
How to get over this ugly break up?
Me and my five year old daughters' father who is now become my ex was together for 10 years and was living together for four years broke up two months ago.
He broke up with me saying the relationship wasnt going anywhere and we gave it our all but hes unhappy, now mind you just in March he was talking about us moving in a house and having another baby and then toward the end of April begining of May he was acting different he wasnt talking about our future plans together anymore. I notice a change in him and I wanted to know why the change all of a sudden, he also have a ten year old son by another girl I've been with him since his son was six months. Well to make a long story short comes to find out hes back with his son mother and its hard for me to get over him cause he still have all his stuff in the apartment where I live, he supose to be moving in his own spot in two to three months so he say. He comes to get clothes and he go spend the night with his son and his mom maybe four days out the week and the other three hes here to spend time with my daughter. I cant take it I'm really hurt by all of this he sleeps in the livingroom when hes here and we dont talk because I'm still hurt.
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Does this guy provide any financial support whatsoever and do you need him? If not. Pack up his stuff. Stick it on the front lawn. Change your locks and call him to come pick it up. Don't talk with him. Don't engage with him. What this guy is doing to you is toxic and will only rip you apart over and over again. Find a lawyer. Take him to court to get child support for your baby. He doesn't deserve the good treatment that you're giving him but your baby deserves all the financial support you can get (and the courts will make sure you get it).
Stay strong!
My ex and her kids stayed with me for six months after we had broken up. While we had to do it so that the kids could finish school before they moved away, it doesn't sound like your situation mandates he be at your place at all. Having that much continued interaction with someone after a breakup makes it nearly impossible to begin healing and move on.
Cut all ties, ask him to get his stuff out, and grab some quality high-fat ice cream.
Forget about this guy and move on with your life and think only about yourself and your daughter, thats your main concern, you will eventually get over him, give yourself time to think about whats best for you and not about someone who;s hurting you, they are practically not worth your time.