Asked by DeeAna on
Is he wanting to eventually pursue a relationship?
I have stayed in touch with this guy after our date, we live about 3 hrs from each other. we started talking about what each other was looking for in the opposite sex. He told me he wanted to see more of me but did not want to jump into a relationship. I told him I was looking for some one to have fun with, date, and eventually be in relationship with. an d he replied that he wanted a good friendship and what ever comes of it. Is he wanting to see other people or does he want to see what build on together?...
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Well, after him saying he wants to be good friends, and him txting me a few times he hasn't had contact with me for 4 wks. so I guess he really wants that into me. thank you for all your comments.
He most likely is wanting to be friends first to get to know you. That is how a lot of people want to start things out because you get to know all about a person and if after yall get to know each other and it seems things may work out as a couple then that's when you take things further. Moving slow is the best thing!
Was this guy in a long relationship before he met you? Just wondering because maybe he doen't want to jump right away in a new relationship. The fact that you does live 3hrs away also might come into play, maybe he wants to take it slow. Or maybe he doesnt have the finances to be in a full relationship. Just give it some time and go with your instinct.If you feel like he is pushing away from you, something funny is going on, tell him.
Thank you, I appreciate the information.
This all sounds like it still pretty new and fresh between you two, so give it some time before you start thinking that he wants to see other people. If he wants to he will say so, and if you don't trust that you can ask him.
For now, I'd take him at his word. He wants to build something solid first before jumping into something more, and its in line with your own goals. If you feel the need to keep the dating exclusive to just you two then let him know. If its a deal breaker for you that you both are open to going on dates with other people then let him know that as well.
Seriously though, kick back and see what happens for now. If you getting even the least bit paranoid right now he may sense it and decide that he just doesn't want to deal with the drama that will probably be coming further down the line.