Asked by Deborrah1 Deborrah Cooper on
He Called Me 40 Minutes After the Date Ended!
Went on a blind date... one of those internet date things. Nice guy, we had a good time. He walked me to my car. We talked about date #2, I said fine. I drove home, changed clothes, kicked back with a cold cola. Phone rings - it's him! Now our date lasted 1.5 hours and this is no more than 25 minutes after I just left. What the heck? Why are you calling me so soon?
What would you say his behavior means?
Would you be happy or wierded out if a guy called you immediately after a date?
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One other thing I thought of later - could he be so suspicious he was checking up on you to make sure you'd gone home/didn't have a husband?
After just one date, I am certainly NOT "into him" at this point. Interested in getting to know him better, sure. But definitely not "into" a man I don't know even the most basic information about.
In my advice I say that calling the next day is good. Nowhere did I say you should call before you even get home from the date! hahahaha!! That's funny though!
I think Qverb might be onto something. I know the guy dates, but he has a bit of an edge to him (not smooth), and perhaps is more awkward and unskilled with women than he lets on. I'll find out when we go out again. Thanks everybody!!
That IS kinda quick. It can go several ways. He attaches quickly; he doesn't go out much; he really likes you; he could be a stalker. This is your chance to set ground rules. Let him know that you want to take things nice and slow. Let him know (in a subtle way) what you like and don't like.
Well, you accepted the second date...maybe this guy is just a little socially inept. If you still go on the 2nd date you might want to let him know that he should take a little more time.
My guess on the optimistic side...he really, REALLY enjoyed your first date, and may be its been awhile since he has felt himself this excited about meeting someone new and just couldn't wait to call you.
Have some fun and go on the 2nd date...if he is still unnerving you then cut him loose.
Any chance he looked up your advice somewhere and thought something you said meant he shouldn't wait to call?
I get the impression this guy can become a future stalker. However, if he called you right away, it might just mean that he's in to you.
The question is whether you are into him? If yes, I don't see the problem. If the answer is no, then don't lead him on and cut it right then and there.