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How to ask an ex for sex?
Ok. so I have been separated from my ex for two months and we ended the relationship rather well. I was hurt by it since I was the dumpee. I actually was the one who ended the relationship because I could tell she could not bring herself to do it because she didn't want to hurt me and possibly just wanted to let me down easy. Looking back I realize she had lost that loving feeling for me after being away for 6 months, but when she got back we continued to have sex. It gradually came to an hault becuase she felt it was misleading to me. Now I have not spoken to her except through on or two emails or a couple of texts. I am starting to get really horny and I would like to ask her if she would be ok with just having sex once in a while but I am not sure how she will take it. I texted her the other night at 130 in the morning and she did not reply. I told her I was sorry if I texed her so late. She said no problem and that she was asleep anyway. The reason I am wanting sex with her is 1: it was good 2: I already know her and 3: its too much trouble to go on dates and meet someone new , nor do I really want to get involved with anyone right now. Any advice on how or if I even should ask her to have casual sex once in while until we possibly meet someone else?
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Totally agree!!!! There is nothing better than boning an ex......ROFL and good gosh, the sex is so much more steamier and rough with an ex..
Even with all that, the best thing for you is to go meet some hot ass women and have sex with them, instead of the women you already know for so long. Go enjoy live, have fun and have goo sexual adventures..
TGA, this is actually a really good time for you to learn some real self control. Tbone is right, and it willl most likely leave you hurting more in the long run.
Take this time to learn how to work past all of the horniness and lingering feelings. It will serve you well in your next relationship and ever after.
I have come to terms with the fact that we will not be in a long lasting relationship and I feel I can move on and still sleep with her but really just want the sex because I do not want another relationship with someone right now and would rather just have sex with someone I know instead of one night stands or with someone I don't know. Do I still like my ex? Yes I do. I think the relationship between me and her shold have always been on the surface but for some reason it changed during her time away. I was the one who said to her that we should not be in a long distance relationship but when she left she was th eone who wanted to stay in a relationship. I missed her dearly and waited for her until she got back. But when she got back things were different.I guess I should just move on through this point in my life but in the meantime I just want to be able to have sex with her because it was really good. Do you think it will complicate things again if we did have sex?
As long as you continue to be intimate with her, you won't be able to move on. Is it even a good idea? You stated that she lost the feeling. That implies that you still have feelings for her. Sex with her will only keep your hopes up. You're not thinking of it that way right now, but believe me, if you try to pursue it, you'll be in for an even bigger let down later on.