Asked by primadonna89 on
How much is he into me?
Ok so i have been seeing this guy for the past 4 months. He told me he liked me and could see me as being his potential gf/ future wifey. We hang out and make out but one night it lead to us having sex. We only did it once and recently I told hiim how i felt about him and where did we stand at being in a relationship together. He told me that being in a relationship is alot for him right now and that he thinks we should still be unofficial and shouldn't rush. So now im feeling like all that stuff he was telling me was bs and now after we did that he doesn't think he is ready to be in one? Im like total confused and shocked because i thought he was interested in more than being just friends. I do think he is talking to other girls considering we are not a couple and is probably having sex as well. I dont know if i should wait for his decision or move on. I know it takes time for a relationship but i thought it was what he wanted but he may just be confused idk. Please help!
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I feel you girl. I've been dating this guy for a while now prob like 6 months and i don't know how much is he into me either. I try not to let him know either and many times i wonder if he feels the same but doesn't show it like me. I am really into him i just feel like i can't show it or else he will take me for granted and hurt me, you know. I' mean we've had the talk where we don't wanna rush into things as a bf and gf yet, but we are getting to know each other. He acts like i am his girl friend and the thing is that with he confusses the shit outta me. Because last time he asked me if i was datting anyone else and i said no and then he told me well i wouldn't want you to it would bug me so then i'm like okkkaaayyyy???? you know with a question mark in my head. So for that reason i've made many mistakes one of them was, we had went out to eat dinner the day went very smooth and nice very romantic then he took me to this place up in the mountains to have a view of the city and then we went to the back sit... we were there talking and fooling around next thing you know we were about to when i through the stupidest comment ever... i said " i don't want to have sex with you...have you been fucking someone else" and he got so offended but you see the thing is that he confussess me because i mean since we aren't together officially i don't know if it's because he just wants to see other people or what you know. So i'm not sure what i've been doing is just going with the flow and see where life and time takes us. So i think that you should do the same. But try not to get to attach to him. As i already did that mistake because when others ask me i say no even tho i'm single.
thanks guys..and noo iam most definitely the type to move from the next..i know i shouldnt have rushed into doing that
Guys like a good challenge, and unfortunately you gave the impression that you and he are totally alike. you both have a tendency to do the wild thang and move to the next and to the next. While you may not be like this, you opened a can of worms and we men can be hyprocrites. He is judging you claiming your easy but he is doing the same thing. take it for what it was worth, meaningful sex even tho the relationship part is meaning less if you were to hope for it. Dont let the double standard stop you from meeting a guy who can have a fling but dont hold it against you as this guy is doing. now you know his spiel, be attentive the next time,but dont call him and refuse to accept his calls.
I don't think he's confused. I think he is being manipulative and saying things to get you to give him what he wants. If he really wanted you to be his GF you would be his GF right now. Get away from this guy. He sounds toxic.