Hate to say it, but even from the men on here you will get both answers. I have been asked out by women. I completely appreciate it, and for me its a sign of great confidence and the willingness to go after what you desire. It kinda lets me know that I won't have to try to pry every little thing out of you when I am asking you for your needs, opinions, desires, etc.

You'll still find men (and I use that loosely in this context) who still feel the need to be in the driver's seat. For them they believe that you will emasculate them more in the future for already intruding on what has primarily been a man's role in the world of courtship since time began.

I'll give you this as food for thought. If you feel inclined to ask a guy out, then ask him out. Think of it as your own mini litmus test. If he says yes then he may very well be confident in who he is and what he wants, in which case probably won't go running if he finds out you are more successful than he is. With where you are at in life it wouldn't hurt to find a guy who is not so traditional in his assumed gender roles.

On the flip side, waiting for the guy to ask you, you may not get what you want. You may also find a man who feels emasculated even more by your success because men have this crazy notion that our real bait to the feminine world is our financial status. While understanding that being able to provide financial stability, various types of health insurance, and a retirement plan are all very sexy lures, these things make not a "man".

Go ask a guy out. What have you really got to lose?