i adore my mother, and she adores me but i think that she is manipulative(not sure if i spelled that right) of me, she gets mad of the decisions i make and she calls them stupid or rebellious decisions, for every decision i take she sees a "but" or "wrong" thing about it. instead of supporting me or say "do whatever u think is right" she gets mad and tells my sis so she can give her advice but the thing is that my sis is just the same. I've notice that the only way to make her happy is if i do what she wants like clean the house, help her on the yard, in short words become her little helper like and slave, she is driving mad!! one minute she's happy then the next she's like all mad and hard to talk to cuz she is so dang stubborn!! She hardly supports me, she over-protects me, and she can easly make me feel bad for the choices i make, my father who isnt with us keeps telling me to be patience that its her age (50) and menopause. i do love my mom and i dont wanna hurt her, every time i try and talk to her of how i feel she ends up getting mad, or makes me feel bad, i know that if i move out my sis and her will have trouble with the bills so i help them pay for them. the other thing is that if i mess up she compares me with my sis, and herself when she was my age. when i get a bf she gets mad because she thinks im not gonna be spending time with her anymore, and with time she calms down a bit but i still can tell she's not so ok. so the thing is I don't know what to do anymore, she's a great mom but she has hurt me, When talking is not an option... what to do then?