But Ladies I just now got around to reading " he's just that into you". Amazingly you will see yourself and the men you date in it. Read it, it will answer your question.

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Yep, Have been fooled twice. Should have seen the sign coming. He's really into me when we started dating; kissing, holding hands, and..... SEX. Intially, we made love on the fourth date. A big mistake. On the fifth date, again we end up in bed together. Again on the sixth date, we made love again. (Know him for a period of a year, started out as friends). When ask him on whether he wants me and deserve me for good, he's too lame to answer me and he said he' s not too sure about the whole idea.Will make it work. Whenever i want to meet him, he's too busy to meet, let alone talk. i have tried giving many chances but no avail.

IIt was a truly a wrong mistake. A relief to know soomer that he's not what i thought who he seems to be, A lesson learnt : Know him well@ in and out before jumping into bed with him even how sexy and desirable he is.

Second chance? If he call or show up in my life? Nah! I truly deserve a man who really wants me and deserve me. Well said!

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Wow I recently asked this question of someone I was very interested in. Of course it didn't last. When I met him everything was good, conversation, holding hands, and plans to meet again, neither of us wanted to leave. We had even comitted that we would not look further in other poeple and comitted and promised we would be honest if someone else did come along or if we saw things just weren't going to work out.

So then I heard nothing from him, I waited sent a mess he responded, not much said, so as days went by no calls, I would iniciate a message and just small response. So I asked.

Are we an item, are you mine? he responded that he didnt understand my question, I said its clear, so no response after a lil while passed I said, I was sorry that maybe I mis understood what we had discussed when we met and although I am very interested in him i had mistaken that he wanted the same. mess. sent, just as that was sent his response from the prev mess came through, statin yes he was mine, he was interested still and wanted to know me more, then he says man i didn't read the last message, i will talk to you tomorrow Im with my family right now (mom, dad, bros). I said ok

no call no mess. the next day, so i sent another message apologizing for jumpin the gun but also explaining that i had not recieved his, no response, not even a hint of ok nothing, next day i tried again, I asked are you still interesed in me, Finally he responded, "I dont know, I dont like to be pressured, We'll talk tomorrow", I said ok and apologized again, i will be waiting. Well no response no call in two days, so I called him, call ingnored. So I said I can clearly see that your not interested so I will do the favor of saying good bye.

It had hit me while I was waiting for him that if he was interested at all he would have agknowledged my apology, he'd a responded at a much earlier time. Why was I going to put myself through this mary-go-round waiting for someone that has proven to me that I was not important on his list. I was only an option and he was my choice!

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You girls are giving the guys to much credit. Most do not know what they want. They look for physical attraction, then if smart, mutual interest. I think mutual interest is a point of interest that is most often over looked. Mutual interest will stay when sex has cooled. Play together & stay together .
It is hard to stay with someone that bores you, mutual interest is not boring. It gives you a foundation.

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The two things are not mutually exclusive. A guy can be interested in you AT FIRST, then when something is said or done that turns him off, he bolts. Women figures he was just a fling. Guy knows he was truly interested AT FIRST, but then things changed. Best way for a woman to know is to spend more time talking and listening than she does kissing, hugging and sexing. Unfortunately that isn't how most young women operate these days. A woman should NEVER have sex with a man or even fool around much until she is absolutely, positively certain of not only how he feels about her, but how she feels about him. You should be paying very careful attention to how he responds to your questions, whether he is an honorable person, if he lies and plays games with others (you won't be far behind), if he is cold and emotionally distant (you can't change him cause you ain't Dr. Phil), etc. Instead all girls worry about is "does he like me?" I don't get that. He needs to be earning YOUR time and attention and should be more worried about how you feel about him.

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Does he make plans with you? Or does he call you kind of last minute? Have you met important people in his life (parents, friends, coworkers?)

The best way to see if you two are an item or just a fling, is something I learned from watching the movie Shopgirl. Call him "sweetheart," and see what he does.

You should also evaluate if this is someone you want a long-term relationship with.

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When a person is interested in a "summer love" or shorter many times they will be as afraid as anyone. Enjoy what is and be emotionally ready to deal with whatever happens.
Too many time we try to predict the future rather than enjoying the present.
Enjoy the now. take effective birth control.

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