I think you should read "Stop Being The String Along--Relationship Guide to Being the One" which was the best read ever as far as relationship books goes and your choices and not wasting your time. In fact all women should read this.. and you'll find someone else who is sure about you. Your time is valuable.

i've been in this situation....trust me,
he wants you but doesnt want to be "hurt" anymore...
theres another girl in the picture most likely.

he still loves you just have him as friend or
dont...its easier to not have him as a friend....believe me i know.

I have some problem this guy met a the club about two month was doing talk on the phone email then acting fun oct3 2008 I dont here from till thursday after that same thing have the nervous text why outtown. Just told him all know you want to me.I know hard moving on to dating other people.

I'm sorry for your pain. Life...our emotions are complicated! It's not all black and white. Remember the grey in-between. What if he does love you and just needs some time? He's being honest. Sounds like he's a good guy. Give him the time. While he's growing you grow too. Stay positive and leave yourself open to all posibilities including him figuring out what he needs and returning to you. When he writes, don't play games, be honest about your feelings. Don't be angry, but understanding. There are very few in our lives that touch our hearts. If nothing else be friends and kind to one another. Life has a way of twisting and turning and coming full circle. Good luck and God Bless.

SOUNDS LIKE HE IS CONFUSED AND DOES NOT KNOW WHAT HE WANTS. DO YOU WANT TO SIT AROUND AND WAIT FOR HIM TO MAKE UP HIS MIND? TURN AND RUN FOR THE HILLS!

Thank you for the responses. I hear you. I was/am moving on. It just threw me for a loop that he contacted me and, since it's only been a few weeks, all the emotions of the breakup and all the "whys" came flooding back. I guess him not responding back to me tells me he's still confused (maybe he didn't think I would answer him back). He is a good guy and I have nothing but great memories (with the exception of him breaking up with me). I just need to get back up on my feet and keep moving forward.

Hi this happened to me almost one year ago. And guess what, i'm still being strung along. It was almost exactly what you described. He cried when he broke up with me b/c he cared about me so much but knew that he was too lost and confused to continue our relationship. I was a fool in love. And to this day i still love him very much, he's a wonderful person just one problem, he is one lost puppy. He will be starting at a new college this fall (after 2 years of college in a major that was wrong for him) So he's got a lot on his plate and I understand that he is worried about his future and that plays a big part in why he just isnt sure about his romantic future. But let me give you some advice i wish i had taken. Move on. He wont forget you, obviously you meant a lot to him. Experience what else is out there, even if its only purpose is to prove that he really is the one you want--have fun! If he truly wants you he needs to get serious and figure it out! Dont sit around and wait for him and definitely dont let him string you along. Like i said for me its been almost a year now, and because i let him go back and forth on me for so long its even harder for me to walk away NOW as it would have been if i had just walked away when we broke up. What i know works: Give him the time alone that he needs to figure his life out, leave him alone and move on as best as you can trust me if you two are meant to be together your future relationship will be that much more successful if you have given your heart the time to heal, and his heart the time to grow up. Hope this helps because i know just what youre going through

the sex must hav been great!!!!!!!!! lol jp

Do you want to be jerked around by this guy again? It sounds like he still doesn't know what he wants and this cycle is going to repeat itself. If you want to date him again, you need to go in knowing that a) his being a jerk has nothing to do with you and b) this could happen again.

Know your limits. You deserve to be treated better than this.

Sweet heart It sounds like he wants to date on his time. I don't know if it's all bout sex or not but what ever you do, don't let him pull the strings. Don't go back untill you have a straight answer. Start off just as friends.