It is normal for my bf still having feelings for his ex's that was his first love and thinking about her instead of me 24/7?
Three days ago he told me that after i asked him, that he still has feelings for his ex and that its been 3 yrs now since not being with her and he says he cant still get over her even when he tried to. He says that he thinks about her 24/7 and that he misses her, the only time he doesnt think about her is when he is doing something fun or being with me. From all that he says that he loves me soooooo much the same way as i do but im practically in love with him, but i dk about him if he is really that into me or like really in love with me the same way as me. After all of this i just cried in a way that my heart just broke into two but still love him. I also wanted to know if its even possible that he can ever move on from his ex by me being in his life? I'm like in a way feeling like im in between the two of them and idk how am i going to continue in this relationship when im probably going to be thinking while doing something fun or starring at me or even having sex or being with me everytime that he might be thinking of the ex. He says that its only between just me and him and nobody else in this relationship but in a way i just dont feel that way anymore. Im glad he is honest with me and something that he kept inside for so long that probably he hasnt told this to his other ex. But i do trust him and that hopefully by me being in his life and trying to get him to forget about his first love from his mind and not thinking about her anymore will only bring me into peace and that im the only women he should be thinking of everyhour, everyday, and everymonth. Its ok to miss ure first love and i guess thinking about it once in a while or not at all for most guys or girls but in this case is that he should really need to move on and live in the present not the past. Bc in reality in the present and this very moment it should be about us and nobody else.
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It's not as easy as it sounds but if prayerfully dealt with, you'd definitely overcome as I'm doing. It is called a 'soultie'.
best regards...
I don't think this is normal. If he is thinking about this woman every moment, how much time is he devoting to you. Do you really want to play second to this woman? Even if there is no chance that they will get together, how committed is he if he is spending his time thinking and pining over this woman?
You deserve way better than playing second fiddle to this woman and to be honest, JP, your wife deserves better too.
Ive been in a relation-ship now for 4yrs. when i meet my Gf i was still having feelings for my ex, but within a FEW MONTHS i got ova that and slowly but surely i got ova her. Keep your thoughts open try and put your self in his shoes. If there is no change in a few months wether it is 1, 3 or 6 give it up before you get messed up.... give hime a chance.
I don't know if this is normal but I'm a guy who's been married for almost 14 years and I love my wife but I'm still in love with my first love, which was in high school and only lasted 6 months, and I think about her every day. So it can happen. I know me and her can never be, so I'm sad alot but for the sake of the family I keep it to myself. I know I'm cheating my wife sometimes by not always being 100% in the marriage but what can I do? Otherwise, I would be alone all my life.
So, my advice is, as long as there is no chance your boyfriend will get together with his ex, then trust that he'll love you as much as he can while still having feelings for his ex.
I know.
FP
