Asked by restlessoul on
Long-distance, but only temporarily. Will it work?
I moved to another state to "find myself" and further my education. Initially, my boyfriend and I decided it'd be best to break it off, but as I found myself lonely and depressed in a new town, we started speaking on a daily basis. It's been a year since the move and we speak reguarly and visit each other as often as possible. We frequently speak of our future together and there's no doubt in my mind that I could happily spend the rest of my life with this man. But I still have two years left in Grad school before I can even begin thinking about moving back to him. We've discussed this as well and are prepared to deal with the hardships, though it's easier said then done. Has anyone been in a similar situation and/or has any advice?
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Of course it can be done. I am going through the same thing. My boyfriend and I started our relationship 3 months before I was to go to another country to study for 5 years. I was a wreck that first year, thinking there's no way our relationship would ever work out. We get to see each other once a year for only 2 weeks. The rest of the time we see each other through the web cam. Now we've been together for almost 4 years. We only have 1 more year to go!
So what does it take to make a long distance relationship work? It takes trust, honesty, faithfulness, openness, communication, understanding, patience. Actually, all relationships need these. They need to come from both of you. You have to both want to make it work and will do anything to make it work. It's not easy the first year, but it gets better. Keep being open to each other; discuss any issues you may have. Don't flirt with other people, be faithful to each other. If you're both sure of your future together, there's no reason it shouldn't work out. Long distance relationships CAN work. Don't listen to those people who say it won't work. A lot of people said that to me before I left "LDRs are hard", "They don't work". Well, I've proven them wrong.
I realize I'm answering this a year after you asked the question. I hope my answer is still relevant. :-)
If you have a set time limit(meaning a two years) and your both in agreement then i see no problem. The spark is what keeps you two thriving during the tough times..that and communication. This is key to keeping the relationship going. Besides you still see each other at least and that's a good thing. The only way to really find out if it's going to work is to just do it and see where it leads you. I hope this is helpful to you and best of wishes. I know long distance relationships can be hard i've had my fair share but if something is worth it then you do what you have to do to keep it! Good Luck with your schooling and love! :) ~Ash~
ur reLationships stiLL depends on u how to handLe Long distance reLationship .. trust and faith wiLL keep u together ..