Should I move away to help me move on?
OK, this is my first question posting, so be gentle.
I am living in the same city I grew up in (only went away for college), and I am looking for a change. I moved back here to be with my then fiance, we married, had children... then he went to treatment and, long story short, left me and our children in the middle of the night over a year ago. I am still living in the house we had because I wanted to keep my children in a safe and familiar environment.
My kids are doing great after lots of hard work, which undoubtedly needs to continue, and I am doing well after some rough spots myself.
I would really like to move to a city I love that is 5 hours away from where I am and start over. This safe and familiar environment I've provided my children has felt like a prison to me, and I need to get away.
There are two things that are holding me back: one is that my ex lives close and the kids get to see their father and that would be diminished with a move that would put us 4 hours apart... the other is that I am concerned about uprooting my children for the sake of my own needs.
Is it wrong of me to want to go elsewhere and start again?
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First of all, you sound like an amazing mother. It's wonderful that you've put your children first through what was obviously a very difficult time for you.
Having said that, I think you need to start focusing on your needs. You deserve to have a fulfilling, rewarding life. If that means moving 5 hours away, then maybe that's what you need to do.
I don't know how old your kids are. If they are young, they will rebound quickly. If they are older, they'll be able to keep in touch with their friends over e-mail and txting. As for being away from their father, that can definitely be tough. But you can get a webcam on the computer and your kids can talk to their dad every night for free on Skype.
Good luck!
