should he stay or should he go
i have known , my current boyfriend for about 1 1/2 years and been with him for 1. we met in AZ where i was starting to fall very ill. eventually i became too ill to fully take care of myself and needed to drive across country to be with my family for support. my boyfriend and i had only been seeing eachother for a month when i had to come back and i agreed to let him, especially because i could really use a chaperone driving back in case i had to go back to the hospital. he came back, we moved into an apt with my friend and i proceeded to support him fully finacially. granted he wasdealing with getting his ID back in order because it got burnt in a fire, but we got here last august, and now it's june. he has an ID, but it took him until April to get it because he had to go to another state and now it's june and still no job. i was on unemployment and now disability, but we had to move into my parents because we couldn't afford living on one income and holding an apt. he has applied, but half-heartedly and only when i nag him which i hate doing. the only reason i'm confused is because this man loves me like no other and will put up with my chronic possibly terminal illness. the mood swings, the excessive fatique, countless dr appts, 13 in patient hospital visits in a year. basically he treats me like gold and he takes care of me and my dog when i can't. i love him back, but am definatly not capable of giving back as much patience and compassion as he can give. not that i don't want to, but i'm so caught up in trying to get myself better that his needs and my dogs needs will unintentionally get put on the back burner. anhyway how long is too long to give him a chance? as much i want to be naive and believe love will conquer all, i am not in a position to cover my eyes and leap. i know from experience that in the long run love will not be enough. he's playing my ps2 right now and we've come to a point that everything he has in his life i have purchased him. i know finances are the #1 cause of arguments among adult couples sharing expeneses, and i try not to get hung up on it, but it's hard. my only requirements are a part time job even if it's a minimum wage job. i just want him to show me he can be resposible and have a little money of his own on him. please help
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Well I honestly think that he should get a job to help support you because that is what a man suppose to do for his women especially in your case. You shouldnt be stressed out worrying about money at all....all you should be focused on is getting better! I believe he is a good man because he is there for you but time and helping you out when needed is not all he can do to show you he is there! You should talk to him and let him know what you are telling us and if he cant come to grips about it I would do what is in your heart to do! A man should not be playing a PS2 if he cant get a job! Not only that what man wants his partner who is not doing so well take care of him! He truly should step up to the plate!
Have you talked to him about it? The first step is really talking to him. Letting him know how you feel. Don't accuse, just be honest. Tell him if this is going to work, you need him to help out with the finances and go from there. Only you know where your line is. If he refuses to help out with $ only you can decide if he should stay or go. We can't do that for you. But I can tell you to figure out where your limit is, talk to him and go from there.
