Will he ever be able to trust me?
My husband has always has trust issues and insecurities. He has never trusted me. we have been together for 5 years and recently got married. I thought after we got married he would feel more secure with our relationship but he is only getting worse. He calls me 20 times a day and accuses me of cheating if I miss his calls. He doesn't let me out the house. I feel so trapped I am seriously considering divorce because he refuses to try couples therapy and doesn't even try to hear my side of things. What else can I try? I really love him and we have 2 daughters together. He is a good person but his insecurity is ruining our relationship!
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You diffenatley need to talk to him and tell him-Listen we have Children together and i Love you BUT-- If you cant get it together and you dont want to seek help then there is absolutley NO WAY this marrige is going to work. What he is doing is going to wear you down over time if you stay with him-- and if he is trying to control you then as HARD as it may be SREW that.. is not worth it
I can relate with that. My boyfriend and me we live together every time i leave my phone in the room and I don't answer or pick he think I'm talking to someone else. And i get mad at that i tell him I'm busy cleaning or if I go over to my mom house he tell me you better not go any where else. Some time I want to leave him but i love him to much.... what should i do.??
He sounds abusive to me, not insecure. I think you should go to a therapist without him to get more advice.
If you think you can work it out with him, you may have to tell him to come to a counselor with you, or you will leave him.
If he is abusive, leaving him is the best thing you can do for your children.
This website talks about how abusers act:
http://www.hiddenhurt.co.uk/Abuser/signs.htm
If you need help, I found this number that will help you find services in your area:
1-800-799-SAFE (7233) on this website: http://www.womansdivorce.com/leaving-an-abusive-husband.html
oops... at the end. i meant....is he assuming that you're doing what he's doing?
if he's always been like that. most likely he will never change. it will only get worst. They're his issues. you didn't cause his insecurities or mistrust. therefore you shouldnt have to pay for it. you will live your life trying to prove to him that he can trust you. but only to see that nothing you do will change him.. it gets frustrating.!! you have to also ask yourself....is assuming you're doing what he is doing?!
