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How can you tell when your partner is cheating?

Because of my last question I asked, I just wanted to know if that means he is also cheating.

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Posted June 24, 2009
Rio
RioSingle
Posted May 15, 2009

1.Staying out late during the weekdays
2.Giving lame excuses about having to be somewhere.
3.Dressing to impress and smelling extra good
4.Not answering your calls
5.Does it feel like he's drifting away
6.Less comunication
7.Is he shaving more, trimming, glowing personality all of a sudden

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Lyz Lenz
Lyz LenzMarriedCommunity Manager
Posted May 14, 2009

Wow AZ gave you a great answer. I would just like to say that don't expect to confront him and have him tell you the truth. Ultimately, if he is holding out on you and acting shifty, he needs to be straight with you. And if he's not, he's not respecting you.

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Jane Wilcox
Jane WilcoxTakenHappy,Positive,Inquisitive, Loving
Posted May 14, 2009

How to tell if he's cheating? For starters, he is very possessive of his phone - takes it everywhere, but makes a point of turning it off when he's around you. Then, he'll excuse himself and go off somewhere and if you peek around the corner you can see he's talking to someone. He'll also spend a tremendous amount of time on the computer. I don't recommend checking his email, nor his phone. Stay away from those tempting little tell-tell things simply because it's an invasion of privacy.

Second, anything you take to his place is collected in the morning so that you be sure to "take it with you - hey, you might need it"... um, ya, right.

Third: When you go into a place for a drink, the bartender can't help but give him a "look" like, "hey, Cassanova, weren't you here just a few hours ago with someone else"?

Fourth: New gifts arrive unexpectedly - oh, and they're from his mother. You betcha. Good ole' mom, how thoughtful.

Fifth: He doesn't want you to even look at his mail - incoming or outgoing (even though you used to pick it up for him, or take it to the post office).

Sixth: The sheets on his bed are ALWAYS being washed.... this one is the true tell-tell sign. Before, you both changed the bed once a week - suddenly it's every other day? And he'll give you some lame excuse about learning about bed bugs. (Bed bug, indeed - you're sharing that bed with two roaches)......

Hope this helps you...
Jane
www.janewilcox.com

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