Asked by rach6280 on
How often should I see the guy I'm dating during the week?
I don't want to smother him but I don't want it to look like I'm not interested either.
I'm asking because I have searched every search engine and found zero opinions.
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Do what feels right. If you want to see him more, offer it. My current guy and I had our first three dates in 8 days I think. Maybe 9 days. It seemed excessive for our friends, but it worked for us and we are happy and still together.
OHhhh! Now I get it. The guy you're dating during the weekdays-is the ONLY guy you're seeing. What was I thinking? Don't smother NEW LOVE. Don't Smother any love for that matter. For his sake and yours. A weekend date is most always a must. Talking together and enjoying conversation once or twice during the week is usually a not smothering. I think a guideline as to how much time you spend together initially is "don't loose focus on YOUR life". Certainly, you've usually had many things that kept you busy during the week prior to meeting him. Most likely he did also. Without playing games, 'continue to have a life' and allow the relationship to complement your life and not 'become your life'. This will make the relationship more enjoyable and make life more enjoyable. As you get to know eachother better--and this REALLY does take a long while--your lives will meld closer together--NATURALLY (if you truly are a good fit together)--and it won't be a matter of DECIDING how much time to spend together.
I don't think EVERY man likes the chase. I have been seeing someone for 2 months and the more I instigate or bring up us seeing eachother or doing something, the more he seems interested. He has started inviting me over more, going out more. I just say, do what feels right to you, try to read the man, if he's more passive than aggresive.....do what you feel is you, and if he doesn't respond or doesn't like it, then he's not for you. Screw the whole "let him take the lead" be yourself! If he doesn't like it, then it probably wasn't meant to be anyway. Games are SILLY!
To avoid any hard feelings or jealousy, I think you should see the guy you date on the weekdays the same amount of time you see the other guy on the weekends. WHAAaaaT? She just slaped me. Did I misunderstand the question?
wednesdays is the best day its in the middle of the work week the best day to see each other and make plans for the weekend. Phone calls once or twice a day afternoon during work hours and one in the evening.The best thing is a little text here and there if you enjoy your weekend call on sunday and talk about your time spent well but dont give in to much just a little bit its a back and forth thing start and see if he respond judge how long to respond and how that tells alot
Why aren't you just defining this with him? Maybe he wants to see you in the same frequency that you do, maybe he wants more, maybe less. Point is, ask him in whatever way you want. If no asking goes on, then just do what you would like to do and see if he brings up any issue with it.
Well, it depends on how long you've been seeing him. If y'all just met, its usually a good thing to limit the time you go out to maybe once a week and let him do the calling or texting cause like angel says, men do like doing the chasing.
Go slow and take your time. Eventually he may want to see you more than once a week, but patience is the key. By answering his calls and agreeing to go out with him should show enough interest on your part as it is.
Good luck!
You can see him maybe once a week and maybe once or twice on the weekend, but just dont make yourself too ava. for him. Guys like the chase rather they admit it or not. Don't play games, but just don't be too ava..