Asked by BrennaLu on
Should I start a relationship with a guy at work?
There is this guy at work that I have amazing chemistry with, we laugh and 'get' eachother...
He is interested as am I as we have talked about it but I just don't want to wrek what we have
The tension is so hard to deal with sometimes....
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Definitely think it through and give thorough consideration to all of your individual circumstances and possible outcomes, but if you think he's worth it - then go for it!!! I met my boyfriend at work and we've been together for a year now. We still work together and really, once we got through letting our bosses and co-workers know, the fact that we share an employer has been a complete non-issue in our relationship.
At the end of the day no one can tell you what the best thing for you to do is. All relationships, of any kind, are unique and the best course of action for you to take will be dependent on the specifics of your work situation, you and the object of your affections. While there's no way to predict the future and how things will turn out in the long run - if you approach this thing the right way, there is no reason that working together needs to hinder the possibility of a great romantic relationship between the two of you!
Best of luck!!! :)
ABSOLUTELY NOT!
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
I SAY NO BECAUSE JUST IN CASE IT GOES BAD U HAVE TO WORK WITH HIM AND THEN CO-WORKER WILL BE ALL IN YALL BUSINESS . HE MIGHT LEAVE U FOR ANOTHER CO-WORKER. IF U DO TRY I WISH U THE BEST OF LUCK
I met my boyfriend at work and now we live together! But we were best friends for 2 years before that. Like you, we weren't sure if we wanted to risk our friendship for something more. But we went for it and it's been great! Aside from what others have already said, I would ask yourself if your work environment will affect your relationship. I happen to work at a very gossip-y place and on more than one occasion the rumor mill has caused a few arguments. We've since learned t distance ourselves from it. If your coworkers tend to mind their own business you should be OK!
Go for it! I met my wife at work and we have been married for 22 years!
Karen does give some really good food for thought, but I'll go on the side of "sure, why not?" I have dated co-workers before, but I also made sure to discuss with them the "what-ifs" it does end and how we continue to work together after that. These discussions gave me a pretty accurate way of measuring if they could actually stick to their word and continue to have a healthy work relationship if our relationship ended. I had no problems with them when the relationship was over and we'd see each other at work, and neither did they. We are still friends to this day as well. So really, look at the relationships you've had. Are they messy and explosive when they end, or is it amicable and (maybe) friendships resume or begin at some unspecified length of time afterwards? How about him? Can he answer these questions as well? You both will need to discuss all of this if you are really concerned with your jobs being affected by your relationship.
I got involved with someone at work. IT ended badly. I had to see him almost every time I had a shift. Ticked me off to no end. And then he got involved with another coworker.
It was ugly.
I agree with Karen, you should really think it through. It may work out, but prepare yourself for if it doesn't.
I think it really depends on where you work and how close you are at work. Does your company encourage this or frown on it? Could it affect your job, your status, promotions etc. My work place actually encourages work relationships and there are many happily and not so happily married couples here. (I work in Law Enforcement). You have to address several pitfalls with work relationship. If it doesn't work out, you have to see this guy every day - and possibly work for him. Also, there is the jealousy issue. What if you see him being personable with other women. How would you handle this? Could this lead to you losing your job. Bad economic times for that! Bottom line, the work part will really complicate any relationship the two of you could have. I personally never date anyone from work and keep my personal relationships private from my work place.