Be thankful for the evidence that you have from the PI. I don't know if adultery is grounds for divorce in TX however the evidence from a professional investigator will still be useful to you in a divorce.

Get to an attorney NOW! You have no idea how many other people that I know that had spouses cheating on them or that filed for divorce behind their backs and they kept putting off getting an attorney cause they had some hope that things would work out or that their spouses wouldn't be as vindictive and punitive. Boy were they wrong. The more time you waste, the less you will be able to get from your divorce (and I don't just mean monetary). And go with an attorney who is known for being a bulldog in divorce cases, because your soon-to-be ex seems to be the type of person who will try to make your life as miserable as he can and you need an attorney that will serve him a big taste of his own medicine up on a platter.

Your husband is a schmuck and he deserves whatever happens to him. I am sorry about what has happened to you, but you have to make a decision - do you want to get mad or get even? I'd rather get even.

Good luck and Godspeed, honey.

P.S. Don't waste your time on HIS family. Just cut them out of your life. I know it will be hard, but once the physical evidence of his homosexuality comes out via the divorce there will be a lot of 'splainin' for HIM to do.

I went through the same thing and it is extremely difficult because you go through denial for a very long time. I mean, after all, who wants to believe the man is loves is not even attracted to her and is deceptive enough to try to fool the world about the nature of his being. Even more so, you don't want to believe this if he fathered your children. I could write a book about how this turned me into a private detective--keystroke computer programs, false email accounts as men, searching hidden files on the computer, etc. However, even with all the information, it's still a heavy load to bear and work through. You need a crisis counselor to work you through the issues he has created in you.

Dear Donna,

First of all I want to tell you that there are thousands of women out there in your shoes. You are not alone, which means there is support and help available. From what I have read and seen in the past in marriages where one of the partners is closet homosexual there are elements of emotional and verbal abuse present. If that is the case with you, I would contact abused women hotline and find organization near you that works with women. You have been married to a deciever for a very long time and, pardon my honesty, but it would be foolish for you to think that you are in any position to make a rational decision in your situation. These organizations provide counceling, as well as legal aid. Since you had hired PI, I assume you have hard evidence of your ex-husbands relationships, which will be helpful in court, but not with his family. Do not be surprised of their reaction. Even when men kill their wives, their families still find fault in the victims. Just stay strong, get in touch with the right people and, now is the time to wait on yourself hand and foot.

I just wanted to add, this website may have helpful information. The women seem to know a lot about divorce.
http://www.firstwivesworld.com/

People never want to believe bad things about their own family. Just hold on and they will see the truth during the divorce. Get a really good lawyer, though. Your husband should have to cover your health insurance for the rest of your life.

Get support from your own family, friends, or church for you during this difficult time.

Wow. First of all. I can't believe you thought the doctor's were wrong when you got the first STDs. Other than that, what makes you think he's gay? Straight people get STDs too. Maybe he's having an affair or hanging out with prostitutes.

If you have evidence from the PI, hang on to it. It will be useful during your divorce process. In the end, however, it doesn't matter if his family believes you or not. You have the evidence. You know the truth. Get out of there. It sounds horrible and unhealthy,