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Is it wrong that sleeping with married men turns me on?
I had an affair with a married friend of mine not to long ago, and I must admit that it was hotter then hell. I was engaged at the time and although the sex with my friend wasn't as good as it was with my boy friend I wanted it more! The thought of getting caught by his wife or my soon to be husband was so hot! Not to mention the things we did to avoid getting caught. He moved a few months ago but we still talk and want to get together. Is this normal to get this turned on by married men, even when I know I should be disgusted.
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i am glad you think it is hot@
tell me exactly how hot he is?
lets us all know, your the expert right?
tell us something we don't already know!
how hot is the man?
i'm glad your happy, that is all that counts isn't it?
and after you cum and after he leaves, how do you feel?
you want more of that man don't you?
but he is a married man
what do you do?
how do you act?
you need him again don't you? what do you do?
what is your plan?
is it your plan? or is it his plan?
your so horny and you need him, but he isn't there?
what do you do?
are you angry?
how many lies does he tell you?
or are they really lies?
when you give him that blow job? how do you feel?
he isn't your man?...but your excited are you?
when he goes down on you what do you think about ? that isn't your man?
who is he to you?
you like the excitement don't you? he is no one to you? a stranger
in a strange bed ? rightt?
how many women like what you do?
are you a number?
do you feel like number 2?
and so on
as the world turns
good luck to you
p.s. on a tip keep your mouth shut
thank you
You're treading on very serious ground. Many can and will get hurt now or later. I always put myself in the situation and think how I would feel if it happened to me. Look at yourself in the mirror and if you like the person you see then continue. If you don't change it. Believe, it may happen to you and your relationship one day.
Why be engaged if you can't be honest and committed to the person you are supposed to love and respect? Why would he treat you with respect or trust you?
Just be prepared to handle the consequences of your actions because nothing is secret in this day and age of technology!
Its wrong for any womwn to have an affair with a married man, It was done to me and runed my marrage of 33years, my family is broken because she would not keep away from him, if hes married hands off what goes around comes around.
no its not normal becouse it well happed to you one day when you git married. he is married. and he is a dog in my book. and i hope his wife well fine out . in my book you are a dog max
We always want what we allegedly can't have and what we have is not worth much or we would still be saving up to get it...get the picture? Old schoolers would say the grass is greener, but I say cheap thrills end up costing more than you agreed to pay. Smoke and mirrors cloud our thinking until we read something like this to jerk us back to reality and the boyfriend with the small penis... "Did I do that?"
yeah thats wrong, generally when you are about to do something morally wrong your conscience kicks ,in thats kind of a dumb ? because no one can really tell u right from wrong but yourself maby you were hoping that if others would approve you would feel better about yourself and the crapy decisions you make. u know somtimes i fantasize about married men but i never act on them, the guilt would just eat me alive.
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I can understand why a single woman would want to have sex with a married a guy. If he has been married more than 5 years, he is not getting it very often, he will be attentive and he is safe
i know a woman who is looking at a married is not a good woman she a dog max
I had a relation with a married lady.I was single and she started that relation.Her husband did not used to give her proper love and time.Thats why she got attracted towards me.I know it was a wrong thing and is considered as cheating.
I think it only happens when one of the partner start ignoring other.And due to some reason both are in a situation that they cannot get divorced.Then to satisfy there needs they start cheating with each other.
I first off dont want to sound like a bitch but WHAT IN THE HELL DO YOU THINK YOUR DOING!!!!!Its women like you that give good women all over bad names.Your selfish and i dont believe im even taking any of my time to waste on you. Because of women like you i will never, never trust a woman and still dont trust men. Sometime that Bitch Carma is going to stomp you ass and id pay money to see it. This is my opinion of you!!!!!! Suzie57
You have very low self-esteem, low impulse control and are an incredibly selfish, narcissistic person. You seem to care little for the people in your life and your actions show that it's all about you. I hope your fiance finds out and runs the other way. Nobody deserves a cheater! What you are taking from this man (yoru fiance) is his ability to ever trust another woman. It's women like you that ruin men for the rest of us. Bury your head in the sand as you bring shame to us ALL!!!
I have never slept with a married man, but years ago I was involved with a man with a girlfriend. I understand the rush you get when you are having a relationship that involves secrecy and lies. Now I am married to a man who has been unfaithful. Maybe this is my karma. Whatever the case, I can tell you it sucks and I would never think of doing this to another woman after having been on the other side of things. While you are having fun and feeling your excitement, she is, likely on some level, even if she doesn't know, feeling isolated, unloved and betrayed. It's a horrible feeling--one I would not wish on anyone.
What about the wife? If you think about the person you are hurting you may change your mind. How would you feel knowing that some other woman is so turned on to be with YOUR man. I dont understand why so many women are willing to help married men cheat on their wifes. Women need to stick together and stop letting men have their cake and eat it too.
GOD DON'T LIKE UGLY AND WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND...KARMA IS A KILLA
Yep, it's wrong...but still common. I had an affair with a married man and I know a big part of it for me was that we could have all the fun parts of a relationship without any of the stresses or drama. Also a bit of that whole "wanting what you can't have" thing...because if he was totally single, I don't know if I would've felt the same about him. It was weird when I realized that I was totally turned on the time he 'accidentally' wore his wedding band. But even though I knew it was "wrong" I couldn't help feeling that way...
i think its crazy that any of you think this is ok! hello dont you take vows that say forsaking all others?? i mean HELLO!! grow up stop being childish and enjoy what you have before its gone...
You already know the answer. Do you care about the man you are engaged to? How would he feel if he knew about your clandestined activities? Would you still want him to want you? I could delve into this deeper yet I'll end it with this. Consider actually allowing love to step into this situation. First, love for yourself. Genuinely loving yourself will allow you to genuinely love others. You will want to remove yourself from any situation that will or can bring harm to yourself or others. If you begin to live in and with love, you will end this hurtful entanglement that you are currently enjoying. And if your boyfriend isn't meeting your needs, love will allow you to free him from the choices that you are currently making.
Something is lacking in your relationship and that something is obviously is not sex, since you've mentioned that sex with this married man was not as hot as with your husband. He must've provided you with some other ingridients that your fiance was not. I would look at the two men and try to understand what is it. Then, if you value your relationship, I would see if I could guide your fiance to giving you whatever that it. Otherwise, one thing I can garantee for sure, you will find yourself in your fiance's shoes. It does come back. I've had many lover affairs with married men before I got married. Then, when I finally got married, my new husband cheated on me with 5 women in the first 3 years. It hurt like hell, but I also knew that was the price I was paying for my past. So think twice...:) before you move forward to accumulation of bad karmic debt.
Back when I was married, and wore my band, I would get hit on all the time. I found that when I ran away from those women, they chased. There was something about pulling back from them that created anticipation for these women. Have any of you guys seen or sensed this? Some women have a primal desire for wanting what they can't have. True or untrue? Men and women have strayed since earliest times. There's got to be something to it. Don't you think?
Seek out men in open marriages! You can treat it like it's forbidden, but without the potential pain and moral ramifications. Just a thought.
It's not wrong to feel that way, but yes, it is wrong to go ahead and have sex with him.
I'm agreeing with Lyz (as usual, lol) it's wanting something you can't have.
IT'S THE FORBIDDEN FRUIT THING AND ALSO THE EXCITEMENT OF GETTING CAUGHT! BUT ALOT OF PEOPLE HAVE AFFAIRS WITH MARRIED PARTNERS BECAUSE THE GET ALL THE BENIFITS AND NONE OF THE PROBLEMS THAT GOES WITH BEING WITH THEM( BILLS, KIDS, FIGHTING AND SO ON)
I wonder if it has less to do with him being married than it is with you wanting things you know you can have.
OK, this is completley wrong....your engaged, he's married! Usually when people go outside of a relationship to satisify their own needs or to feel specail, its because they have self esteem issues to deal with.
Yes. It is wrong and you know it. But...
I have to agree with NYMP Samantha here - for various reasons, I can't be entirely public about all of my relationships - although we're working toward it. The "forbidden fruit" aspect is certainly part of the appeal - although just be sure you know that you could end up losing everything if you aren't incredibly careful ...
One of my lovers is married. I completely push open and honest communication, but I seriously get off on being with him. I don't know what it is, but I know it's normal.