Asked by goldie on
Y is marriage so hard?????
After almost 10 years together, 6/12 of those married--- it seems as though we are just roomates who paybills have "Benefits" and raise the one child we have together, We have been through "ALOT" (including almost Divorcing --papers were filed)still togetther and in my opionion as long as i stay on his good side then everything is ok---- really not sure which way this marrige will go-- but i do believe in God and i know he will guide my foot steps.
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My husband and I have been married 19 yrs. This does happen...we went through even almost breaking apart...but talking is the key...4 us..almost losing eachother brought us so much closer, realizing how much is at stake. now when we aren't comunicating one of us will be like"been there..what's going on?" Try & hear his needs & then put your needs across to him.
Well, I have also been married for 6 and a half years and things havn't always been easy, between having 2 young children, money issues and an emotional affair we have had our fair share of problems. BUT when we make time for eachother, to talk and listen and understand eachother, our sex life improves and we work better as a team. The future sometimes can seem uncertain but if u never give it your all you'll never know what could be:)
Considering that you and your husband have been through A LOT and that as long as you STAY ON HIS GOOD SIDE, you can continue to be parents and ROOMATES with benefits.....don't you think that the two of you deserve something better? Perhaps you both my benefit from some marriage counseling to improve upon your marriage. You both already decided against divorce so now it's time for the hard work of rebuilding your relationship so the three of you have a chance for a happy life. Best wishes.
From what I hear, the hardest part about the transition from dating to marriage is the deterioration of the dating. If you feel like roommates with benefits, perhaps you need to find some time to spend together as a couple? Without the worries of the bills and your child. :)