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Generally speaking, if you love one person than usually one of you ends up getting hurt. Thus, if you love two people, one of them, or you, getting hurt is a relative certainty. While there is no means for preparing for emotional distress, one can simply prepare another for the prospect of it.
If you genuinely feel as though you "love" two people, then they both need to know that there is someone else competing for your affection, and that you will likely divide your relationship time between the two of them. At least then, when someone does get hurt, you will only be dealing with pain and loss. At least that is better than coping with pain, loss, guilt, and animosity.
You can't always control how you feel, however, you do possess the autonomy to truthfully communicate your feelings, and if you "love" both of them, then being honest with them should walk hand in hand with your "love".
Best of luck.
1 word "NO" !
Perhaps you can share with us why you want feel you want the love of more than one person? Sometimes, I feel we need the love of more than one person and perhaps this will help those who feel you are crazy understand how and why you are in the situation you described.
Thanks!
benb
Usually, no. Most people are going to be jealous. I think that's the way we're made. Brothers and sisters are jealous as soon as they can push each other off your lap. Animals try to keep others away from their mate/s. Most societies are monogamous. You might be in love with two people who aren't jealous, but probably you can't love them both without hurting them.
It is definitely possible to love two people without someone getting hurt. The challenge is that we have been taught from day one of life on earth that it is not possible. We are taught that we can love only one person completely and that anything else is wrong. I do not think we can change this but we must realize that it is possible even if we think it is wrong.
No, that is not possible. Especially if the two people have feelings for you. Someone will get hurt. Now, you may be able to smoothe it over where it won't be as painful by communicating your feelings to the both of them and be upfront and honest. You will feel alot better and you won't be leading one of them on.