Asked by sexykay21@yahoo.com on
do you realy think that long distance relationships work over time?
my friend ask me this same question but i was unsure what to tell her.she is dating this guy for 2years but he leaves for England about 3months ago. He call like twice per week and she has no number for him.the means of the matter is that she is wondering if she should wait on him?he visited a week ago but he is back in England and since he hasnt called.she found out that he was texting other girls within period that he hasnt called,im afriad to tell her to let him go cause i dont want to be the one to tell her to leave him.give me your opinion
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LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS USUALLY DONT WORK. HOW COME SHE DOES NOT HAVE A NUMBER FOR HIM. I SMELL A RAT. I SMELL A DIRTY RAT!
I must agree with the prior posters. There must be a concrete foundation, consistent communication, and solid commitment to make any relationship work. It takes even more solid, consistent, and concrete things to make long distance relationships work.
I don't want to sound negative, but it sounds like the other guy has moved on. Whether or not he has truly cheated on her physically it sound slike he has had an emotional affair. I can see that she is beginning not to trust him. In my own opinion, if he really wanted her to stick around, he would provide her with contact information. They would find multiple ways to communicate because telephone is so expensive overseas. Email, video chat, instant messaging, text messaging, etc. There are dozens of way to communicate, so he has no excuse. It sounds like he is using this as an easy and cowardly way to ease out of the relationship and avoid confrontation.
It can work only if both parties remain truthful and honest in their feelings. To me it sounds like the guy isn't that serious in keeping a committed relationship. She should have a number to contact him which I think is weird. If you are committed to somebody it seems kind of odd that you wouldn't have a phone number to reach them. Additionally, actions speak louder than words. If he feels more compelled to text other girls rather than call/contact his girlfriend more than once a week then he doesn't care. I am not saying it always has to be a phone call but at least an email, IM, text, something to show that you are thinking of the person.
It can work but only if both people are committed. You sound young, therefore I assume your friend and her guy are young.it doesn't sound as if this particular guy is mature or committed enough. I feel she needs to walk away and find someone who can be committed.
YES! They can work, but only if you have a foundation of trust and open communication. My DH and I did an LDR for two years and we're married. But I completely trusted him. Sounds like this guy isn't that trustworthy, unless he just has female friends, which is understandable. Just because he's dating doesn't mean he has to stop talking to ALL other women.