Asked by clairehughes76 on
Will my boyfriend ever ask me to marry him?
We have been together for almost a year and are expecting a daughter in July. He says that he loves me more than anything, I'm his world and he doesn't want to spend time away from me (when we are not at work or school). To tell you the truth I feel the same way about him. When we first met (blind date) we literally felt that we had known each other much longer. We enjoy practically the same things and have a similar sense of humor. My daughters absolutely love him and he feel's the same about them. He is an awesome father figure to them. I could see spending the rest of my life with him and feel's the same way. When I went to have my former married name removed and my maiden name put back he wanted me to spend the extra money and time to change my last name to his. I was honored but in a way I was hurt because he did not want to do this through getting married. I know that he hates ceremonies and would rather do this in front of a judge (I am the same way). But I am wondering how long will I have to wait?
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Well, you're halfway there because you're having his baby so, that's one way to keep him for a while but, if you really want to get him to be bonded to you? You'll think of something.
Common Law Marriage.
Oops, sorry for posting that 3 times. Anyway, look up Common Law Marriage. You two are pretty much married in the eyes of the state.
Common Law Marriage.
Common Law Marriage.
It doesn't take a rocket scientist to know that he wants the goods but doesn't want to pay for them.You guys need to learn to communicate better and be honest with each other,let him know that you would like to raise your kids in a committed loving relationship and you dont want to be his babies momma,and you also have to realize that you have two daughters that you are raising and we must lead by example.So if he truly LOVE you above your waistline he will stop playing and do the right thing.Girl get on your knees and pray GOD will send you your husband remember it's always our choice and GOD'S decesion.
girl just ask him you know what ya want and you need to ask him and find out if he wants the same!!! i hope this helps
Wow. You've been together for a year and are expecting a child together? I can't imagine that. I was with someone for 2 years before I got engaged, and was engaged for a year before I broke up with him for a total of 3 years and I never thought about actually getting married. Before my most recent ex, I was in an on-again-off-again relationship for 2.5 years before we broke up. A year just simply isnt enough time for me to get to know someone well enough to marry them, and I believe in living with someone before marriage to know if you can actually put up with that person full-time.
I guess if you're ready you should just ask him... Since you've been through at least one divorce before, it might be better to just leave well enough alone because you know you'd be entering into a legal contract with him.
You have only been together for a year. And that's not that long for some people. I think just letting him go at his own pace and get there when he's ready is something you need to do. It's hard, but pressuring a guy to get married ALWAYS backfires.
I was in the same situation with you. I once asked him, but instead of getting an answer all I did was pressure him more. Whenever he's ready, he'll pop the question. At least you are certain that he wants to be with you. He feels you're part of him, giving the last name is something important. Don't put any pressure that something that is only paper, you love each other time will tell what happens!
Ask him! You know what you want, find out if he wants the same thing.