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How can I get him to dominate me in bed?

My boyfriend is a very smart, liberal, enlightened man. He believes that women are unfairly objectified in our society and that men should do more to try and equal the playing field. I like this about him. But there's one place I wish he would try to be a little less egalitarian, and that's in the bedroom. I love to be tied up, slapped, and called dirty names. I've told him this, but he says he just can't play along because it would make him feel awful to do those kinds of things to me. How can I get him to dominate me without his politics getting in the way?

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Rio
RioSingle
Posted April 14, 2009

put on a porno let it be a girl thats being dominated the way you want and just watch he's going to come on to you but what you need is reject to do is provoke a play fight pillow fight anything playful but physical smack him kiss and bite him but in a sensual way throw your hands up at him as if you boxing kick him whatever act like you in the mood hit him then run( eventually he chase you around the house close the door on him lock him out anything its a form of foreplay)tease him and if he doesn't come at like lions do on the discover channel and play he's gay cause if it were me you dont even know oneday you should cheat on Mr. Softy with a bad guy so he could flip you suck you dry were you out come on to you like the beast we really are and take to the grave its a trhill for some women your human play

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BookMama
BookMamaMarriedHappily Married
Posted April 13, 2009

I think it's important not to push someone to do something that they're uncomfortable with. Maybe you can find something you both like.

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marriedlady
marriedladyMarriedLoves her man
Posted April 13, 2009

Does he have to be dominating in a demeaning way? Maybe that's what turns him off? If he's so egalitarian offer to tie him up first and then he can return the favor!

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