Youre with someone whi isnt on the same page as you with regard to money. My advice is break off now before he drives you crazy spending his way to poverty. You will NOT be happy with this guy if you stay. Its OK to save and its OK to spend but opposites dont attract in this case.

There is nothing hypocritical about wanting to be frugal. Talk to him about some long term goals you can both work toward. You can't be shy about talking money. It's the number one thing couples fight over. You can't avoid it.

Your relationship has changed since you first starting dating, but that doesn't mean you're looking to dump him just because he's not driving a hot enough car. I think the recession and all global economic problems is a great opportunity to bring up your desire to be more conservative with money.

You're going to have to start talking about money. Married couples fight about it a lot. I think you may have to assume that he can compromise and learn to save more, but he's probably always going to want to spend more than you do. On the plus side, married people tend to save more than unmarrieds, probably because they encourage each other.

I don't think you're a hypocrite. You can want to save money even if you value other things more than money.