Asked by Kataroo on
Why can't I orgasm?
I've had successful orgasms from oral sex, but it doesn't work when I have intercourse. I don't think there's anything wrong with me, but I wonder why this is happening. I like them both equally as much! It's really frustrating -- can you give me some advice?
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Be careful ladies..... I hear you can make it so you can't climax from intercourse if you get used to a vibrater. Like you dull your erotic sensors down there like a calisis. Then your guy will leave you because he doesn;t feel he can turn you on sexually...ru row..
All of the above works looks like your question has been answered fully.
Always converse with your partner & tell him where & when it feels the best for you.
Experimentation is one of the greatest things for foreplay & getting to know each other well.
Those pencil vibrators are fabulous & have made great presents for my female friends.
Easy to fit in ones purse & hide them quickly when traveling in ones car so I'm told. ;-)
First off.
There is nothing wrong with you. Your vagina hasn't been awakened to a vaginal orgasm, prior to intercourse. Have your partner bring you to orgasm clitorally with their fingers, then go for digital stimulation of the deep spot to awaken your vagina. Do the deep spot at least three times before penetration with the penis.
This usually will hit the mark.
Just happened to stumble across this discussion.
http://community.feministing.com/2009/04/the-confidence-to-cum.html
Buy a few vibrators and experment on yourself. My ex couldnt reach orgasm and I recently discovered she has never used a vibrator. You have to know what sensations gets your motor running. Plus, regular usage is healthy for you.
All you really need is alittle foreplay, and a helper called the vibrator. The better the foreplay the better chance of orgasm. Your partner also needs to do their part to get you there. Some men are selfish in the bedroom, they get theirs and it's all over. Not fair. Check your positions too, if he's on top, put a pillow under your butt. This allows for deeper penetration. Don't be afraid to use your fingers to help you along. The spoon position, (both of you on your side) is a good one for orgasm. He can use his fingers on you at same time. You just need a little finger and vibrator help to set the pace, then you might not need either of those and can orgasm from straight penetration. There is nothing wrong with you, hang in there and try new things until it works for you!
I can rarely get the O from just intercourse alone. Although the best time happened on the couch. Maybe it was the angle, but it worked. But I think most guys are down with helping you out a little.
Hi, This is one of the most common questions we get at our home pleasure parties at on my radio show. It is nearly impossible for women to orgasm from intercourse. My suggestion is to incorporate a small vibe into your lovemaking. 65 - 90% of wome have most of their orgasms from clitoral stimulation which is why it's so easy to have one from oral and masturbation.
There are lots and lots of small toys that are small enough to use during intercourse and that won't freak out your b/f.
If you would like more tips or to take this offline, you can email me directly or privately. I own an online sex toy store and have a radio show called BetterSexRadio and am a Pleasure Coach. I am sure a small toy will work really really well for you.
Most experts say most women don't come from intercourse. Some argue that women have a G-spot or other sweet spots that feel good when stimulated with fingers or during intercourse. Whether or not this counts as orgasm is still hotly debated. There is a guy who developed a position you can use to stimulate your clitoris during intercourse so that you come (coital alignment technique). Some people suggest using a vibrator during intercourse. Many advocate doing exercises to tighten the muscles around your vagina.