All good advice, but it's the same deal whether doing a woman or a man... first find out how they masturbate...that gives you a clue as to pressure, speed, technique... second, only do it if you want...nothing worse than someone going down on someone unenthusiastically... I always insist on the woman I am with pressing hard as possible with her lips to make it feel tight...I do not care for deep throat, that turns me OFF thinking a girl is choking herself to meet my needs, but pressing hard with finger and thumb or with the lips is what gets me off...but every man is different.. in the early stages of a relationship technique should not matter as you are so hot for each other...later on tecnique keeps love alive

I often say that giving someone oral sex is the HIGHEST COMPLIMENT you can pay them. It's a sign (like one of the other people commented) that you are REALLY into that person. It's the "opposite of rejection" like he said above. And, as I commented before, ENTHUSIASM is key here.

And, btw, it turns out that some women also enjoy oral sex VERY MUCH, too.

What oral sex actually means for a man is "the opposite of rejection." In other words, when a woman performs oral sex on a man, it means very little unless she is willing to swallow his sperm. When a man ejaculates, he is giving (providing) every bit of his DNA, or the genetic makeup, of WHO he is. It is instinctive. When a woman accepts and completely swallows a man's ejaculation, she has completed one of the most profound acts of complete acceptance that man... entirely. It is almost poetic.

The same is correct when a man ejaculates inside of a woman's vagina. It is about acceptance from her. Most men instinctively thrust deeper while ejaculating. The deeper inside a woman, the more powerful the need to implant his seed as deep inside her body as possible. It is an acceptance thing. It is nearly an unconscious need. It is more than a desire. It is actually an instictive need. Only until humans began analyzing the psychology of human instict was this need ever labeled as a "want." The only difference is that men are asked to "curb their need" based on the willingness or unwillingness or their partner, understandably so. Still, it makes it no less a tremendously powerful desire to ejaculate deeply into a woman's throat while watching her consume everything "man" within that powerful ejaculation of sperm directly into her depths. To consume him is to accept him. It's that simple. Nearly any man would feel honored and grateful.

I like the idea that you are serious about providing pleasure to your man. (That is a big turn on for me!) I do not believe there is a "perfect-way". It does depend on the man. But I do believe there are two types of blowjobs....1) to get him hard for vaginal sex; 2) to get him off. Both would require different techniques.

I think when a girl gives you a "hummer" and likes doing it then shes showing you that she really cares. Most girls only do it because they were encouraged to do so, but if you make it pleasurable by using your tongue & hands....then I'll do whatever I can do to make your toes curl too. : )

Very erotic topic! hehe.
Anyways, what I like about oral sex is that it is different from vaginal sex. Not saying its better or worse, just different in the effect that the mouth has more control over movements. What is pleasing, is the engulfing feeling. The mouth is a soft, warm, and wet area which is pleasurable, but what makes it better is the control of the toungue. Lips are pleasing too. We, as men, like to feel big. It's not slutty, just is a very erotic intimacy with a partner. Personally, I do not think it is gross or demeaning, as long as its out of love not hornyness. I love giving oral also, because I know its a different experience rather than vaginal sex. Again, not saying either is better than the other, just a different feeling and experience.

what i like about a blowjob is when the women takes all the dick in her mouth like a pro,and then swollows all the c*m,then stick it back into her mouth and keep sucking till a hard on and stick it in her p***y until she reaches orgasm.

In all honestly I've found it depends on the guy. One guy liked all the pressure on the tip, and another liked it all on the base. What's been most helpful for me was just asking, because just like women, every guy is different too. Trying different things like tightening your lips in different places and using your tongue worked for me, just watch their reaction and it's easy to get the hang of what they like :)

my girlfrien confessed... "I am practicing with a banana" and i say "that works" my whole penis enters your mouth... Try it!!!

I agree with most of the comments you have received, so I posted the question to my own man, and he said well its a sure bet not to get a woman pregnant! lmao, of course thats not the only advantage, but i use several sets of oral sex on my man.
Make it different even just a bit each time, handcuff your guy 2 the bedpost can be fun.
Pour choclate syrup or whipped cream on him, and let yourself go to town, the more creative you get, the more fun he has, and also enhances your curiosity thinking of the next one you will pull out of your hat!
And here's a great trick also, do the job with a menthol in your mouth or an ice cube and watch him shiver!
If you enjoy whats going on, and heres a real good trick, if u want him to last long, and believe me it works, my man lasts 2+hrs when i use ORAJEL !
This is used normally for pain on the gums, but put some on your lips and go down on him, it desenitizes a bit for a while and it wont cause your jaw to get locked after a while lol.
Good lucK!

Have you ever ask a guy why personally? I think it's the best feeling ever it has more to offer its like putting my penis in a p***y thats alive with a mind of it's own plus the different sensation you get when a women try different sucks,slurps, its a hell of a tease the beautiful part of it all is when a women is pretty and there's eye contact a makes a man feel so relax and accepted kind of like drinking a real cold beer after work.

When a man is turned on, or up, lol, all his blood goes down to the penis. It becomes the most sensitive part of his body, or maybe it always is. The slightest touch sends shivers down his spine. It also gives him some sort of boost of power over you, which as we know a man likes to dominate in sex most of the time. It feeds his ego, no seriously it does. You are doing something that helps him in alot of ways. Yoe can make it a better experiance by using whip cream, honey, anything sweet. I hope the man returns the favor, a good unselfish man will! Have fun with it, and that will get you through.

Kataroo, great question and I'll give a little first hand info.

First, it's always been my preference for a decent amount of suction. The suction can be tiring and make take some practice to be able to go for more than a minute or two but if you can get that mastered you're almost home free. The second important part is to multitask your tongue into paying extra attention to the bottom side of the shaft near the head. That's the most sensitive region for most, and will make the process go quicker (assuming that's a goal). Last but not least, like BlissConnection mentioned, it is nice to have the balls massaged. If you can get those three things down, you shouldn't have any problems whatsoever.

Best of luck.

Hi there,

Most EVERYONE prefers enthusiasm when it comes to oral sex. Men, especially! Remember their penis is their universe. Putting your mouth on their penis and testicles is the HIGHEST compliment you can pay someone. When I do co-ed parties men always say "don't forget the balls" - be sure you are gentle with them but they do like alot of gentle and wet attention there. Be sure to give lots of eye and smile some. It should look like you're enjoying yourself. :)