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How do you tell a friend that you don't like his girlfriend?

I know she's not right for him, but I don't have the heart to tell him. He's so in love with her right now.

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benbree
benbreeMarriedYou remain only human
Posted May 14, 2011

Hi bdaddy,

You say nothing, Your friend needs to discover this on his own. You are not helping by telling him that this woman is wrong for him.

Stand down!

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Genevieve Lill
Genevieve LillTakenTwitter.com/genevievelill
Posted April 13, 2009

I think approaching this as a discussion rather than blurting out "I need to tell you I hate your gf" will be ultimately more productive and safeguard against ruining your friendship. If he understands you're looking out for his back but that you two don't see eye to eye, you'll probably be able to keep the relationship. If you calling her a raving, soulless lunatic who's turned him into a similar looney... maybe not.

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Lolita
LolitaSingleIt all feels good.
Posted April 13, 2009

Depends how long they've been dating. If it's been years, you may ave missed the boat, unless the girlfriend is actually a bad person. If it's early, just tell him straight up what's on your mind, but if he chooses her over you, he'll never forget what you said, so really think about if it's worth it.

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marriedlady
marriedladyMarriedLoves her man
Posted April 13, 2009

Hard as it is, you just tell him. Be straight, not mean or blaming, just honest and from the heart. He may not agree, but he'll know you're only thinking of him when you speak your mind.

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Entendu
EntenduTakenWeddings are stressful
Posted April 9, 2009

That's a rough one. I'm going through it right now with a friend as well. I ask myself, what are the possible outcomes? and none of them look good =/

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