We all feel a little crazy sometimes (for me, "sometimes" means at least three times a day), and while we're big proponents of therapy and other structured forms of mental health support, there are times when limited funds or busy schedules make it tough to get professional help.
Long-term relationships sometimes need a boost of inspiration to reinvigorate the couple, whether it be in the form of fresh date ideas or breaking routine for a trip. Color can also help.
Our species is living longer, getting married later, and having children a decade (or more) later than prior generations. Due to technological innovations and advances in science and medicine, we are improving our health and as a consequence, prolonging our lives. What this means according to scientists, is that middle age is coming on later. So that by 2050, 52 years of age will be considered middle age, instead of 40 years of age, which was considered middle age in 2000.
Psychologists at the University of South Brittany in France studied a group of 120 males (ages 18-21). The men were shown a 20-year-old woman (wearing different colored t-shirts) and asked to rate her attractiveness and how likely she would have sex on a first date.
People often joke that, despite our best efforts not to, we grow up to mirror the habits and behaviors of our parents. Unfortunately, this age-old concept now stretches even further, and it may be affecting romantic relationships.
I am pretty sure that sometimes a cigar is just a cigar and sometimes we really like being tied up despite having a pleasant, if unremarkable upbringing and having great respect for our friends, lovers and neighbors. Mommy and daddy issues are frequently convenient excuses for "embarrassing" desires we've been taught to believe are "sinful."
In the first segment to this series I said that 50% of the population has a “broken picker”. This is because Chemistry is a result of a “hard wired” energetic pattern you were born with. The old adage that “Men are attracted to women like their mothers” and “Women are attracted to men like their fathers” is true.
Hitting over 70 million viewers in just its first week the Kony 2012 Youtube video is now considered to be the most viral video in history. Because of this video the African warlord Joseph Kony is now known by the majority, and the hope is that Kony will be found and brought to justice. Having the most viral video in history was no small feat for co-creator Jason Russell, or anybody for that matter. Having the amazing vision to do something extraordinary requires a brilliant mind.
Oh, Rush, Rush, Rush. Do you have any idea how deeply wounded you are? Do you not see how your thwarted view of the opposite sex is fueled by untold fear and confusion about what it means to be a man? Did you miss the sexual revolution of the 1960’s which has evolved into the awareness that sexual expression between caring, consenting adults can actually be emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually healthy?
As a therapist, I often hear couples complain that whenever one partner tries to get close, the other pulls away. It’s a painful reality that love isn’t always as easy to give and receive as we’d like to think. Many people have developed defenses that make them intolerant of too much love, attention or affection.
It's no secret that the male gender is a bunch of bumbling idiots when it comes to us ladies. Look at us! Our hips, our breasts, the way we smell, the softness of skin (which is completely natural and in no way attributed to mounds of moisturizer) and of course, just the fact that we are the fairer (read: superior) of the genders — we're the complete package.
In the early 1990's, a writer and relationship counselor by the name of John Gray, Ph.D. wrote a little book you may have heard of: Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. When the book was published in 1992, it became a pop culture phenomenon that eventually led to more books, seminars, a TV sitcom and even a one-man Broadway show.
December 31 may be all about the New Year’s kiss, but by New Year’s Day, most people are thinking about what comes after the kiss. This can be a good metaphor for our dating habits in general. The person we look to for instant passion, an immediate spark or even a New Year’s kiss is not always the same person we would be happy sharing our lives with long-term.
Every once in a while, I like to do a quick quasi-experiment with my psychology classes. I hand out slips of paper to everyone in the class. It appears (to the students) that all of these papers are the same, although they in fact are quite different. Half of the class has just received a slip asking them to name the three best events that happened to them over the past week. The other half of the class receives a paper that asks them to list the three worst events that happened to them during the past week.
Cheating has been analyzed through a never ending stream of expert opinions and "why men cheat" books and articles. Overwhelmingly, the barrage of cheat-lit takes the much needed stance of helping women either demonize or empathize in addition to ensuring women that there's something that can be done to prevent a man from cheating. Not this article.