Phil McGraw, the superstar psychologist, turns 60 today. His shows are notable for their no-nonsense approach to guests' personal problems, and millions respond to his straightforward advice. In fact, Oprah Winfrey was so enamored of Dr. Phil's principles that she made him a star. That story is well-known, but here are a few things you may not know about the doctor.
It turns out that psychologists are just like the rest of us: prone to making mistakes and giving medium-to-bad advice. A couple in New York are laying down the lawsuit with the couple's couples therapist. The man, actor Guido Venitucci, says his shrink hectored him into having an affair, and now he and his wife want some financial restitution.
Going to couples therapy wasn’t something my boyfriend or I had to wrangle the other into. Our rough patch was more like a slick of black ice, and we were careening towards a precipitous ending. We had moved in together almost a year before, and couples therapy seemed easier than breaking up. It would at least buy us time to figure out how to split our belongings while I looked for my own place. I was scared, and didn’t know what to expect. Would she pit us against each other? Would she take my side or his? What if she liked him better than me?
The 90 Days program is a four-pronged approach. The first thing you do is identify and break your "Deadly Dating" patterns. Then you go on what I call a "Dating Program of Three," where you date three guys—no sex with any of them. Number three—you do the inner work where you work on your self-sabotaging ideas, your beliefs, like "I'm too old," "I'm too fat" or "There are no good men out there." You also cultivate what I call your "Diamond Self," which really helps you bust through shyness. The last thing that you do is you get yourself a "Love Mentor." Now this is somebody who is like a fairy godmother, who gives you the most profound support and really helps you find "the one." And all of these things work together and help you succeed in creating the love you really want.