Learn How to Communicate for More Pleasure and Deeper Intimacy

Most relationship experts say that communication is the foundation of a healthy relationship. Massage is a beautiful way to use both language and body to communicate what you are feeling, what you need, and where your boundaries are.

Learning massage together at home is a crash course in communication that will have wide reaching benefits in your relationship. ??We teach massage and erotic touch through online videos, so any couple can learn how to touch one another with more skill and confidence. Not many people make it to massage school, so we distilled all the essentials of quality touch into easy to learn techniques and strategies for maximum pleasure.

In the first stages of learning massage, you will learn to verbally communicate what works and what doesn't - being able to say "That feels great, but it would feel even better with a little more pressure" will make the difference between a good massage and a great massage. Likewise, when you are giving massage, it is essential to begin asking questions like "Will you tell me when this feels just right?" or "Would you like a little more massage on your back before I move on?" Asking these practical questions begins the conversation about physical desires. The translation to the bedroom can be seamless as you develop the skills to ask for exactly the kind of touch you want.??

We communicate not just with our words, but with our bodies, sounds, touch, gestures. How close you sit on the couch together is a strong communication of your intimacy. Sharing massage and touch is like learning a new language together - it doubles your ability to speak to one another. A simple loving touch can communicate caring, support and compassion. Bringing more attention to your hands and bodies will make clear the areas that you succesfully communicate your love and other areas where you may need to evaluate what you are saying to one another with your physical actions. ??Finding words during a massage or sex is easier for some people than others. Explore communicating your pleasure and wishes with your body movements, gestures and sounds. If your partner is doing something you love, tell them by moaning or sighing. Move your body into their touch. Use your hands and guide them in exactly the kind of touch you want - put your hands over theirs and show them what would feel good. Then, take your hands away and allow them to continue. Use hand gestures and agree ahead of time on what they mean - if you want more pressure, wave them forward. If you want to slow down, use a flat palm. This is a lot like helping someone parallel park - waving frantically means "Come on, you've got lots of space!" but a firm show of the palm means "Stop!" You can develop a whole language with your hands that can give one another very specific information without using a single word. ??

Whenever possible, offer positive feedback. Tell your partner what is feeling good and what they are doing well. "That feels good, could you do it a little softer?" This builds confidence and makes it easier to hear requests for change. If the only time you say anything is negative or demanding, your lover may lost patience.