By Lucia D. — Written on Oct 13, 2010
By now we’ve all heard about the Courtney Cox-David Arquette split. David recently explained that the cause of the break up was because Courtney didn’t want to be his mother anymore. This relationship dynamic often leads to divorce or sexless unions. A woman cannot be attracted to a man she feels she has to mother.
Inside every woman is a little girl who wants to be held, talked to and acknowledged. She doesn’t always want to be the one in charge of the relationship. Courtney already had her hands full with "Cougar Town." She needed David to be a man, and not another child she needed to look after. Eventually, she resented this role and was no longer willing to put up with it. Courteney Cox & David Arquette: It's Over
The repulsion to being sexually attracted to a man a woman has to mother is so deep that even Bonobo chimpanzees, who are thought to be our closest living relatives, will have male/male, female/female or adult/minor sex but they will not do it with their own offspring. Animal Love Lessons
It’s very easy to slip into the mother role if a woman isn’t on the look out for it. For example, many men seem to have the habit of leaving things lying around on the floor. If a woman starts to pick up after him, he figures he doesn’t need to pick up after himself and he stops doing it. She has just turned into his mother and he has become her son. Yet society tells women they need to do things for their men. So how can a woman still do this without becoming his mother? Mother-In-Law Confessions: What She Really Thinks
Women need to tread carefully here and walk a fine line between doing some things but not everything. The only time a woman should “take care” of a man is when he is sick. Otherwise, if he wants you to do something which he can/should do himself, the response which will save your relationship should be: I’m not your mother.