10 Easy Steps to Become Irresistibly Approachable to the Opposite Sex


10 Easy Steps to Become Irresistibly Approachable to the Opposite Sex

(Trust me, words don't do them justice.) One day she was strolling down the street (in New York City of all places!) when she heard a man's voice say, "Excuse me..."

When she turned around, Amy was surprised to see a handsome guy standing there. "I'm sorry to bother you but I just HAD to tell you how great those pants are!!!"


Amy, of course, was flattered and they struck up a conversation. The hot guy asked for her number and took her out to dinner! (She changed her pants for the occasion.)

Now, the chicken wire pants aren't for everyone (Amy is a brave girl who can pull ANYTHING off with her spunky attitude and radiant smile), but you get the picture. If you can give someone just a little something more than "Uh....hello" that they can grasp onto and make small talk with, you've instantly become more approachable.

Sometimes, a person might be too shy, too preoccupied, or too oblivious to their surroundings to initiate a conversation with you. That doesn't mean that you have to let the opportunity pass you by.

Let's say you’re at Starbucks, and you spot a gorgeous stranger standing in line in front of you. You hear him order a Mocha-Choca-Latte. That’s YOUR order too! You move over to the pickup area, and the barista calls out "MOCHA-CHOCA-LATTE for Erica!"

This is the perfect opportunity to acknowledge your shared love of the same beverage as a possible way to break the ice and spark up a conversation.
What if, instead of dashing out the door, you grab your drink, tip it toward your dream man in as if you were toasting "cheers!" and say a funny, innocuous little thing like, "Breakfast of Champions!"

Maybe he’ll simply smile. But maybe - just maybe – he’ll say, "You're telling ME. I can't even function until I've had two of those..." Bonding over your caffeine habit might lead to introducing yourselves by name, even exchanging business cards or making a date.

You never know...just by being the one to go out on a limb and initiate conversation, you could be opening the door to a special connection!

Human beings love to feel important, useful, and that their opinion is valuable. That's why one of the easiest ways to make yourself approachable is to ask for help. For example, try one of these ice breakers on the next person that catches your eye:

"Excuse me, can you tell me how to get to Smith Street?"

"My friends and I are looking for a good happy hour around this neighborhood. Can you recommend a place?"

"What are you drinking? That looks good...Should I order one?"

"Do you have a pen I can borrow?" (This can really get the ball rolling if they want to ask for your number!)

One of the most basic needs we all have as people is to be accepted. Which is why someone giving us a little compliment ("Wow...that shirt really brings out your eyes") can make our whole day.

Often, when someone gets up the courage to approach us, they'll start out with small talk and wait for some kind of signal that we're interested before they take the risk to ask us out. A small, genuine, well-placed compliment could be just the green light they's looking for.

If you're not sure what constitutes a flattering compliment, consider what you would like to hear yourself.

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