Poll: Have You Snooped On His Email?: Yes, I snooped and it was totally justified! Yes, I snooped, but I'm not proud of it. No, I've never snooped, but I'm thinking about it. No, I never snoop and I never will.
A Malaysian politician is in hot water after taking a second wife. While it wasn't against the law for him to engage in polygamy, he just had to run it by his first wife first. Her consent was required to inform the Sharia court that the second was OK. And a college professor in China is facing three and a half years in jail on grounds of "group licentiousness." Essentially, the educator was having orgies and group sex is bad for business in the People's Republic of China. It doesn't seem like privacy is much of a concern there, but how would you feel if your next-door neighbor was getting into those kind of shenanigans?
Every now and then, we browse Metafilter, a huge community questionboard, to stave off our boredom. When we came across a board titled, What Clever Relationship Hacks Have You Come Up With?, we couldn't help but be grateful that we learned something in the process of passing the afternoon hours. To clarify, by "relationship hacks," the original poster meant clever or unconventional ways to maintain a healthy relationship. Since the forum received so much feedback, we've narrowed down eight of the funniest and presumably wisest relationship tips from real-life couples from around the web. Let us know in the comments whether or not you agree with these:
That's because, during his acceptance speech, the "proud" dad announced to the world at large that his daughters, Ayla Brown, 21, a former "American Idol" finalist, and Arianna Brown, 19, were "available."Of course Brown could do a lot more damage if allowed to go on at length—say, in a filibuster on the Senate floor—but the issue raises an even thornier question: Should your parents be allowed to intervene in your love life at all?
The blog MyHusbandIsAnnoying.com is written by Tiffanie Wong. And man is she right. Her husband, Mark Joyella, has some annoying habits. But are Mark's idiosyncrasies, amusing as they are, worth airing? Is a dangerous dirty laundry precedence being set? And what does anyone really expect when cohabiting (though married) in a small apartment?
Certain words I dread ("We need to schedule two more dental appointments") while others I would kill to hear ("Ann Coulter's physician confirms sex-change operation"). And then there are statements that defy imagination, such as; "My husband gave me the greatest birthday present last night—a public flogging." I actually overheard one of my exotic dance students say these exact words last week. Now, I'm not exactly unfamiliar with the BDSM scene.
The other night, when I was having dinner with a guy friend who told me my engagement history might scare off some guys, we also discussed the issue of privacy in a relationship and how big of a deal it can be when that privacy is violated. He maintains that checking your partner's email, cell phone call log, and text messages is totally wrong, whereas I think it's wrong, but not pathological or evil. Frankly, I know many women who do the occasional cell phone check or email glance (and a few women who do oh-so-much more), but what about guys? Do they ever pilfer through their girlfriends' inboxes and Facebook accounts? I went to four taken guys on IM to find out.
Have you ever checked your partner's email without his/her knowledge? Does he have your passwords? Is it okay to listen to your significant other's voice mails? Where is the line between intimacy and honesty when it comes to personal, private communication. YourTango takes it to the street to find out what you think about your and your partner's right to privacy.
Snooping—reading his email, logging into his Facebook account—is generally a recipe for disaster. But for one woman, find out her husband's secrets was the key to getting over her divorce. "The pain of reading his diary was oddly liberating. Once I got past my disgust, I couldn't lose what I didn't have. And if that was the man I was married to, I thought, I didn't lose much. In actuality, reading his diary may have been one of the best things that have happened to me. It made me see that he was never really there for me to begin with. I didn't have to worry about how I was going to make it alone. I'd been alone all that time and just didn't realize it."
She just can’t resist going through her boyfriend’s personal belongings, but sometimes snooping leads to more harm than good. By spying through his writing she finds his secrets and an invasion of her privacy. It turns out word, especially the Big Words, really hurt. Victoria Hirschfield finds this out the hard way when what she found was a dagger to her heart.