Older women with younger men -- I thought it was just a media-fabricated phenomenon. Then I heard a 24-year-old guy friend raving about the 40something ladies in his building who flirt with him like blushing schoolgirls.

"Cougars [1]" are the older women -- perhaps divorced, perhaps never married -- who are looking for fun and no commitments! "Prey" are the younger men these ladies ensnare [2].

If you are not as lucky with older women as my fetching pal, you may need a little guidance about where the cougars hang out. (And no, it's not the local Chico's.) A visit to urbancougar.com's exhaustive list of cougar dens [3] should do the trick -- the 'cougar den' bars in my home state of Connecticut are hilariously on target.

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