Diagnose yourself and learn how to manage stress from wedding planning.
So often engaged people — especially brides — come to me after they have completely lost perspective about their wedding. Often they are frustrated that their partners are not involved enough in the wedding planning, or they feel distant from their loved ones. Although these are very common feelings that arise during wedding planning, some of these feelings can be caused by brides trying to achieve a "perfect" wedding (and in the process alienating their loved ones).
It is true that every couple's sex life goes through stages and that the "new couple sex" stage will end. Your sex life will change, mature, get better and have downtimes over the lifetime of your marriage. But it is also true that you can have a strong sexual, sensual and erotic relationship that is vital, exciting and fulfilling.
Premarital Counseling gets a bad rap. The popular belief that there is something wrong with your relationship if you need counseling just isn't true. Most premarital clients are very happy and not having doubts about their wedding. They simply seek skills to prepare for predictable challenges of marriage. Yes, marriage is challenging, but most of the challenges are easy to overcome.
The myths we tell each other about marriage have very little to do with actual reality.
"Why didn't someone tell me it was going to be so hard? I thought that after we were married things would settle down and we could just be happy together! How come we just fight—and our fights go around in circles and we never solve anything? I am not even sure I should have gotten married in the first place!"
The importance of adding "learn marriage tools" to your wedding planning checklist.
Planning for a wedding can be a really exciting time. However, caught up in the wave of enthusiasm, many people don't include marriage preparation on their checklists. It's easy to understand why, after all, most couples are still in the honeymoon phase of the relationship where it seems that nothing could ever go wrong, right?
Premarital advice from a New York couples counselor
Dear Will and Kate,
I read that you had six months of premarital counseling with the Archbishop of Canterbury. That the archbishop is the perfect person to help you plan a beautiful Westminster Abbey wedding and talk about the spiritual nature of your marriage, I have no doubt.
Could an iPhone application save your forthcoming marriage?
Most people out there agree that marriage is tough. YourTango.com highly recommends looking into premarital counseling. In all honesty, what can it hurt? If you don't have the dollars for premarital counseling, the Couplet iPhone app could preemptively save your marriage.
Premarital counseling reduces the risk of divorce by 30 percent. Totally worth it, right?
Before Prince William and Kate Middleton tie the knot—something we've been waiting for nearly as long as Kate has—they have to participate in several marriage preparation sessions with the priests who will be involved in their wedding ceremony. The media has seized upon this fact, mostly because of Prince Charles's and Princess Diana's divorce but, in truth, this isn't anything out of the ordinary. In fact, in some faiths, it's a requirement. Are church and state wrong to be butting in on our marriage plans? Or should premarital counseling be something all couples participate in?
Did you receive premarital counseling? Do you plan to? Tell us what you think!
In December we learned that Prince William and Kate Middleton are getting premarital counseling, which got us to wondering: How common is premarital counseling? Does it work? Are people generally in favor of it, or not? Take our survey below and let us know what you think!