Ever wondered what keeps us in love with someone, how to rescue a failing relationship or who's most likely to reject you based on your fashion choices? YourTango has the answers! MSN lifestyle website Glo.com, YourTango and Chemistry.com surveyed over 20,000 people, and leading biological anthropologist and relationship expert Dr. Helen Fisher analyzed the results, a few of which just might surprise you.
POWER OF ATTRACTION
According to the 22,000 people who took the Power of Attraction survey, men and women have pretty similar view on how to reignite attraction in a relationship. Both genders say talking about the relationship and going on a date are the top methods or rekindling the spark. But as we continued to analyze the results, we found that there were some significant differences in what guys and gals thought would turn up the heat. “I can’t imagine ever being like that with you,” John said. He meant it... for the first few months. The new couple went to concerts, museums and took long walks around the city. But less than a year into the relationship, a familiar pattern emerged. “Our relationship had become the dreaded ‘dinner and sex,’” says Amy. “Well, no. Dinner and watching a mind-numbing amount of TV and sex.” And fighting about how they “never did anything anymore.” So what happened? Was John growing boring, because he was already bored?
It's no big secret that the hot and heavy lust of a new relationship almost always fades to a cooler, slower version of itself as our couplehood progresses. But before you worry that all long-term relationships mean chaste, sexless companionship, a new YourTango survey, conducted with MSN's Glo.com and Chemistry.com, leads us to believe otherwise. In a survey about the nature of attraction, 90 percent of our more than 20,000 respondents said that it is possible to reignite attraction in a relationship. Of course, there are some great ways to do this and some not-so-great ways to bring the spark back. According to the survey respondents, here are the five worst ways to reignite attraction in a relationship:
YourTango, Chemistry.com and MSN's Glo.com polled more than 20,000 people asking them questions about the power of attraction in short and long-term relationships. The good news? While 88.5 percent of those surveyed agreed that attraction changes to your partner over time, 90 percent said it's possible to reignite the magic.
Everyone knows that in a relationship, attraction goes well beyond physical traits. In a massive new survey of more than 20,000 men and women, YourTango teamed up with Glo.com and Chemistry.com to find out just how much power physical and non-physical traits hold over attraction within a relationship.
While conventional wisdom says that long-term relationships can't sustain the initial spark, 90 percent of men and women believe that passion can be rekindled. In addition to reaffirming the power of attraction, our survey reveals what draws women to men in the first place — as well as what repels them. Rekindling the flame is one thing, but the following qualities may nip a young romance right in the bud.
["How To Turn Date Night Into Incredibly Hot Sex" is sponsored by Zestra.] According to the results of YourTango's Power of Attraction survey, 80% of you believe that "date night" is the magic spark that will bring the fire back to your relationship — Hey, it's how you first seduced him! But while a date usually guarantees you'll get a delicious dinner, things can get a whole lot spicier when you become the main dish. After all, you're the one who can serve up hot sex! Transition date night into unforgettable passion with these sexy tips, guaranteed to turn any old dinner-and-a-movie into lip-biting, sheet-grabbing, toe-curling, mind-blowing sex!
What attracts you to someone when you first meet them? What keeps the passion alive in a relationship? How do turn-ons change over time? These were some of the questions on a recent survey conducted by YourTango, Glo.com and Chemistry.com. Over 20,000 people took the survey and the results were analyzed by Dr. Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist and author of numerous influential books on love. You can see all the results at www.RekindleAttraction.com. Here, we talk with Dr. Fisher about sex, love and the new age of relationships.
How much power does attraction really hold? A lot, it turns out. While a relationship's flame may flicker, 90 percent of men and women believe that dwindling attraction in a relationship can be rekindled, according to a new survey of over 20,000 people. The survey was conducted by MSN lifestyle website Glo.com, YourTango and Chemistry.com and analyzed by leading biological anthropologist and relationship expert Dr. Helen Fisher.
When my husband requested a trial separation, his reasoning was that we weren't a good match anymore. He felt that we shouldn't have to compromise in order to find happiness, and that love should be easy. I briefly considered the fact that I might be married to a delusional maniac, then rejected the thought and explained to him that marriage was all about compromise. People change over time and, as a result, relationships must shift in order to accommodate that change. I know I'm not the only one who feels this way. According to the results of YourTango's Power of Attraction survey, 33 percent of people feel that "getting [their] partner to change" is a good way to reignite attraction. But should you even be together if you need your partner to change in order to be happy?
While you can glean advice from studies about relationships, it’s not one-size-fits-all, says Sherry Amatenstein, a marriage therapist and author of The Complete Marriage Counselor: Relationship-Saving Advice from America's Top 50+ Couples Therapists. However, if a bit of research resonates with you, there are commonsense ways you can apply the message.