Is porn coming between you and your man?
A recent study revealed that red states purchase more porn than blue states. While the differences weren't astronomical, Utah (home of Salt Lake City mormon settlement) enjoyed their staged O faces most with 5.47 adult content subscriptions per 1000 home broadband users. Red states like Montana and West Virginia also secured themselves a spot on the top ten as did true blue Hawaii and recently blue Florida. The ten lowest porn buying states were, not surprisingly, liberal. As Benjamin Edelman at Harvard Business School said, "Some of the people who are most outraged turn out to be consumers of the very things they claimed to be outraged by."
Maybe the answer isn't getting rid of porn, but exposing ourselves to more of it. And not just porn, all things sexual. Time and again, I hear that being exposed to porn dulls people's connection to true sexuality, that it skews one's understanding of reality, that it turns honest men (and women for that matter) into creepy perverts. I don't buy it. Not after hanging out with and talking to porn vendors and stars and fans and production people. I think just the opposite happens.
Somehow, some way, porn has made its way into the mainstream. Jenna Jameson is a household name. The appellation "porn" has been innocently added to other genres of media. Joe Francis thinks the government owes the industry a porn bailout. Steven Soderbergh is directing a porn star named Sasha Grey in a conventional film. What the Sam Hill is going on? Are Howard Stern, Larry Flynt and Hugh Hefner laughing their smutty butts off somewhere?
Those with a penis who made it to the AVN Adult Entertainment Expo were in for a tight, lubed up treat. The Real Touch Interactive sex device. This new football-sized contraption works by strapping it on, plugging into your computer, and pressing "play" to the 30-minute porn that comes with the device. The action corresponds with motion cues sent over a U.S.B. from your computer. The Real Touch electronically simulates the mouth, vagina and anus of the porn star on your screen. Athough it isn't on the market yet, it's tentatively priced at $150, with one 30-minute video, some lube and free shipping.
We've already established some people think Palin is hot. (Others are driven wild by her First Dude!) An enterprising Bussel, an erotica writer and former sex columnist for The Village Voice, started the web site, Sarah Palin Erotica, to quench that polar bear-sized thirst.
Comstock Films are mixing socially worthwhile causes with pornography. The proceeds from any porn video you buy will go toward defeating California's Proposition 8. Proposition 8 aims to eliminate the rights of same sex couples to marry via a state constitutional amendment. Comstock Films creates Erotic Documentaries, a thinking man's porn that is artful and also titillating.
Writer / Director James Gunn has something new for you. Do you enjoy porn except for the nasty sex part? Do flimsy plots and bad acting really push your buttons? Then check out PG Porn. First up, Nailing Your Wife. Real porn star Aria Giovanni and actor Nathan Fillion almost get it on in this first family friendly porn.
A woman discovers her grandfather's secret love of pornography. "I didn't know if I should laugh or vomit as I realized grandpa, the man who let me stay up late, eating "ippy" (our nickname for ice cream) out of the container, was into hardcore pornography. I couldn't help but feel an immense sadness as I grasped just what a lonely life my grandfather has been leading."
Some husbands diddle their secretaries at the office. Other husbands diddle... themselves. Maybe jerking off at home wasn't private enough? On the Details blog, sex writers Em & Lo talked to a husband and wife couple struggling—yes, struggling—with hubby's masturbation. The wife griped:
As the internet grows so does the porn industry which rakes in over $15 billion each year in the US. And all this money is coming out of the pockets of men. 72% of visitors to pornography sites are men. According to an article by SavvyMiss.com, men say that watching porn is so normal for guys that they will even share their favorite DVDs and videos with their buddies. It’s as natural as letting someone borrow a power tool or lawn mower." But the article warns watch out for the guy who has replaced his lady with porn. There is a fine line between use and abuse.
Job dissatisfaction is pretty common. Numbers vary, but between according to Forbes.com in 2005, up to 87% of people were unhappy at work; in 2007 LiveScience put the number at over 50%; and earlier this year MarketWatch reported that only 9% of people liked their job so much they'd marry it. So job dissatisfaction is rampant, even male porn stars are in on the career-hating action! Today we learn, via Debauchette, 7 Reasons Why It Sucks to Be A Male Porn Star. Watch out, that link is NSFW, so we'll bring you the highlights below.