If you don't like doing it, it leaves you in the position of finding the 2% of men who do not care anything about it. This is not a favorable position to be in. The odds are exceedingly against you. But keep in mind that it's always better to know what to do and not need it, than need it and not know what to do. Who knows? One day it may grow on you. (Pun intended.) Now, if you're ready to get your hands dirty, continue to read on.
It's no big revelation that men are driven by visual stimulation, and most men today have seen pornography in their life, especially since it's so easily available online, on cable, and on magazine racks. So what's the big deal? For one thing, I know of several marriages and intimate relationships that have ended or were severely stressed because the women were deeply hurt when they discovered their partner's addiction to pornography. Women rightfully like to feel that they are cherished as the woman most sexually-, emotionally-, intellectually-, and spiritually attractive to their partner.
Now here's something all you fans of porn might want to know: it's good for your relationship. Surprised?
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One of the quickest and most assured routes to sexual arousal is through fantasy. We use our imaginative capacity all the time during our waking lives as we envision all the possible futures that our daily life could result in; or even in the most negative of circumstances when we allow ourselves to ruminate and over-think bad outcomes for our relationships and aspirations. Yet when it comes to the mysterious sexual fantasy life that lives somewhere in all of us we often keep the door locked.
"I know this sounds weird but I always search for 'teen.'" - Jim
Forget about candy-colored bra and panty sets from Target; there's ickier underwear for little girls afoot. It's lingerie, to be exact, although the French line Jours Aprés Lunes calls it "loungerie," because it is for lounging around instead of, uh, looking sexy prior to getting it on. Why, praytell, would girls ages four through 12 want to wear lingerie?
The question of whether porn is dangerous or harmless is one that society has had trouble answering for some time. A recent, rather controversial article in Newsweek suggested that men who buy sex, including pornography, are more likely to be criminals, including engage in violent sexual behavior. But the Scientific American says the opposite: porn could actually lower the amount of sexual violence.
How do you really make a jailbird suffer? Take away their porn! A 21-year-old inmate in Michigan has filed a lawsuit against the state's governor for violating his civil rights in the most inhumane way possible: prohibiting porn. Kyle Richards is locked up at Macomb County Jail, where all pornography is in violation of the rules. What cruel and unusual punishment!
I’m seeing an epidemic of “porn addiction” in my office. Not of porn addiction, but of “porn addiction.” Here’s how it looks: Wife/girlfriend somehow assumes that husband/boyfriend does NOT watch porn (guess that’s what she means by “he’s one in a million”). One day, his porn watching comes to her attention (he leaves something on the screen, she searches his website history, he gets an email or bill from some friendly porn site, etc.). She freaks.
There was a point at which porn hadn't simply gone mainstream, hadn't just jumped the shark, but had somehow lost its taboo altogether, and that was November 17, 2009, the day Jenna Jameson appeared on "The Oprah Winfrey Show." I remember watching it with a mix of bemusement and sadness. I first met Jameson in the summer of 1997, when she was dancing at a strip club in San Francisco...
A funny thing happens when you've been with the same person for a really long time. Even if you still like them a lot, you may find that you're just not that into having sex with them… or so you think. Your libido may be waning, or there may be too many other details on your mind between work and managing the home... or kids clamoring for attention... there are plenty of excuses not to have sex.
The storm outside my office defined the storm going inside the lovely lady sitting across from me in my office. Her tears streamed down her face, the pain was etched in her eyes, her plea for help. She said. " I just dont understand it," " I try to be perfect." " I work so hard." why cant he see all that I do for him? As I handed her a tissue I asked her, What is the real problem here? Is it you or is it something else? She began to describe her relationship, she said its had its ups and downs like any marriage does.
The next time you have to endure a lecture about the booming porn industry and society's consequent moral decline, you might want to bring up something that people always seem to forget: pornography is ancient. In other words, there has never been a golden age of porn-free sexual integrity. In between digging for lost civilizations and ancient relics, archaeologists have also found plenty of (potentially) suggestive depictions. Archaeologists believe that visual stimuli evolved as a means of reproduction over the years. Modern society knows how many "tries" it can take for a woman to become pregnant, and sometimes one or both partners needs an extra boost to help him or her get in the mood.
Sex and politics: Google searches for pornography spike after political victories. A husband and wife psychologist team decided to get to the bottom of whether or not political victories cause an upswing in pornography usage. It turns out, YES, there is in fact more titillating viewing going on the night of an election, but only if you happened to vote for the winning party.