Last week Newsweek ran an article on polyamory. It got me thinking about consciousness, sexuality and relationships. Most of us are not ready for the honesty, transparency and humility that are necessary to make polyamory work. When I say humility, I mean being able to look at your own jealousies and insecurities with a gentle eye and a willingness to speak your truth with love.
In an open marriage, what happens if your husband or girlfriend falls in love with someone else?
You're in an open relationship, and you have both a husband and a girlfriend. What if your girlfriend or you or your husband all fall in love with someone else? According to polyamorist Jenny Block, "although they are very good friends, my husband and my girlfriend are not in love or involved with one another. And my girlfriend and I are very much in love. The thing is, we don't think of love as a limited commodity. So, falling in love with someone else is not so much of an issue."
Meet Robyn: a polyamorist, suburbanite and mother. Could she be your next-door neighbor?
What would you do if you found out that the mom you shared carpool duties with was a dominatrix at night? Or what if that cute couple next door wasn't really a couple—but a threesome or a foursome? How would you react? Well, you better get used to it, because all across America, in sleepy suburbs just like yours, moms are hiding secrets. Meet Robyn. She's a 44-year-old mom of three and a polyamorist who's currently involved in loving, intimate relationships with three men. And she's open to more, time permitting.
Originally posted at http://notyourmothersplayground.com
Here’s a fact I’ve realized lately: I’ve dated / slept with way more
people since being married than I ever did when I was actually single.
Looking back on my real single life is a strange exercise. Steph and I
have been together since I was just about 21 so my single days are far
behind me, plus I was younger then and times have changed. Still, I
have enough single friends to know what dating is like nowadays and I
wanted to reflect on the differences between being actually single and
single(ish). (Dating while in an open relationship.)
The first obvious difference is that being Ish, I’m already coming
home to somebody. The ’sense of urgency’ that I’ve seen so many people
go through is lifted. I don’t have any questions of “Is he (or
sometimes she) the one?”. That position is filled and if I’m looking