Playing hard to get and being hard to get are two very different things according to dating expert Elizabeth Stone. In order to maintain interest and avoid unobtainable expectations, one should never play this gimmicky game. Read on to learn the 4 ways you can (and should) be authentically hard to get.
PLAYING HARD TO GET
We asked guys if reading the signs was really all that simple: Is playing hard to get a turn on, a turn off, or just plain confusing? Here’s what they said.
One expert explains her ups and downs with love, and how she learned to respect herself. Learn how to respect yourself, and examine the types of behavior you tolerate in relationships.
I spend a great deal of time reading dating advice articles and information. I like to remain current on what other dating experts are offering people beause it allows me to stay critical about the advice I offer my readers. So far, the women I have worked with have confirmed for me that the advice I offer is both helpful and needed.
When I am working with women moving on from a relationship and getting ready to date again, I encourage them to be a little less available than they had been in their last relationship. Inevitably, they say to me, "I don't want to play games. I want to be who I am." My question to them is: well, why is it that “who you are” is someone always ready to drop things and run when a man wants your attention? Why do you think that anyone would find that attractive?
Do you think that playing hard to get will create the kind of romantic tension with your man that will make him crazy about you? Well, it probably will work– with most men and for a short while. The problem is that it won’t work in the long run with mature men who know that quality women are REAL people.
What the heck does “We are taking a break in our relationship” really mean? So many people are doing it today & how do they get away with it? It is the same as having your cake & eating it too ~ you may as well cut off a big piece & spoon feed it to them!
Tough Love is… A hard and sometimes sad road we must walk down. It is a process we use when we need to step away from control or stop our desire to help a loved one who has become too dependent on drugs or alcohol. It could also be used for a person who just needs a huge wake up call when they are self destructing their own life, or the welfare of another.
Dating is often a game of cat and mouse, but presumably, doesn't the mouse just give up and then you start looking for apartments together? This week, Cat (really, that's her name) wrote in to ask if it's normal for men to expect you to be in constant pursuit. She writes: "We hooked up for about 2 months and twice during that time he got upset for whatever reason (he plays the martyr bit, “you don’t have time for me”) and stopped talking to me without ever discussing it.
Psychiatrist Carole Lieberman thinks she's got men all figured out, and since I'm too daft to know otherwise, let's assume that she does. Let's assume that she's the Dr. Love we've been looking for, that she's the Mr. Miyagi to our Daniel LaRusso, the George Washington to our Revolutionists, the answer to our prayers. In her new book, "Bad Girls," Lieberman extols the virtues of being, predictably, a bad girl. Intrigued?