How To Get Hit On
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How To Get Hit On

Sadly, just being out and about is not enough to get hit on these days. You have to make a concerted effort. While it would be nice to just hit your local pub and watch the men fight to get to you, those chances are slim. At least if you’re me any way. If that happens to you, you should probably just stop reading now.  I NEVER Get Hit On

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A couple makes out near the port-a-johns in the infield at Preakness 2006.
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Get Your Preakness On! 3 Tips For Hooking Up At The Horse Races

"Growing up in Baltimore, I've attended many infield parties at the second leg of the Triple Crown, the Preakness. Something about that infield makes us all behave like heathens. Don't get me wrong — it's a good time (even though it feels a bit like a war zone). Hook-ups abound, and there are plenty of opportunities to merge with the opposite sex."

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"Hunger Games" mania officially started at midnight.
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Our 5 Favorite "Hunger Games" Pickup Lines

"Hunger Games" mania officially started at midnight. Are you into it? Or could you care less? Either way, dating site HowAboutWe has some awesome "Hunger Games" pickup lines. Here are some of our faves.

10 Reasons We're Loving The Viral Video Series, "The Flip Side"
Just a couple ladies hittin' on dudes...
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10 Reasons We're Loving "The Flip Side" Videos

What would happen if men and women switched gender roles, so that men were the ones getting hit on in the bar and spending their Saturdays obsessively shopping, and women were the ones who had to pay cover, use cheesy pickup lines and leave the toilet seat up?

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Women Who Like One-Night Stands Hate Other Women

Ladies, how do you prefer to be approached by a man? There is surely no single answer to such a question—unless, of course, you're talking about a one-night stand, according to a new study. It claims that when it comes to casual sex, women prefer straightforward and aggressive pick-up tactics, and men are more than willing to deliver them.

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Why Nice Guys Are Still Bad Boys

The Nice Guy question had always vexed me, because I'm Nice—but really only in comparison to some of these hammers and nails I see in bars, aggressively hitting on you women. (I really don't know how you all deal with it.) Then it struck me one night while I was being Nice to a girl—I want to sleep with her just as much as that a-hole over there does. Which makes me just as much of a creep.

Flirting Mistakes We All Make
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Flirting Mistakes We All Make

One night, over a shared bottle of wine, she was explaining the finer points of her technique, when a cute guy walked over and poked his head between us. "What are you drinking?" he asked. "What does it look like we're drinking?" I answered snottily. That night was filled with valuable lessons. The main one being, if someone asks you a question—even a dumb one—they're trying to engage you on some level, so don't shoot them down. Here are a few other flirting don'ts I discovered along the way.

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Who's Choosier: Men Or Women?

The answer as to who, in the romance equation, is pickier when it comes to selecting a mate may come down to a question of who's doing the approaching and who's being approached, regardless of gender, finds a new study from researchers at Northwestern University.

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4 Sneaky Ways To Put The Moves On A Guy

One of the questions women always ask me is whether hitting on guys is a good move. I know why they’re conflicted. We are socialized to believe that when it comes to the game of love, men should be on permanent offense. And I’ll admit that on the exceedingly rare occasions when a woman has approached me at the bar, I don’t know how to react. But that’s not to say women should play the role of damsel in distress when they spot Prince Charming. You just need to be strategic in your approach.

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The Links: Mother's Day & John Edwards

Big things, it's Military Spouse Appreciate Day, Mother's Day sex advice, Candace Bergen on John Edwards, strip clubs appeal, having a boyfriend backup plan, when to move in, Twilight getting frisky, pregnant women are smug, picking up a bartender, limits of sexual adventurousness, a plea for comprehensive sex-ed, how a decreased libido improved dating and how pregnancy made sex better.

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5 Shy-Guy Pick-Up Moves

Just because a guy is shy, doesn't mean he's not really cool. He just takes a minute or two to get warmed up. Check out the top few ways that a shy guy may try to peacock, flirt, open up a set or jukebox his way into your, um, heart.

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Discover Your "Type" (It Really Exists)

Anthropologist Helen Fisher, author of Why Him? Why Her?: Finding Real Love by Understanding Your Personality Type, says that understanding your personality type can help you navigate the dating waters. Using genetics and neurochemistry Fisher identified four types: about Explorer, Builder, Negotiator and Director. Which are you?

Are You Seduced By Inner Game?
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Are You Seduced By Inner Game?

Pick-up artistry is the idea that there's a certain set of actions that, when used, will make women swoon, give you their phone number and go home with you. The idea entered pop culture in 2005 with the book The Game, and reached its nadir in "The Pick-Up Artist," the Vh1 show where Mystery, a pick-up artist, showed regular guys how to land dates. To me, pick-up artistry has two sides. It's good if it teaches socially awkward guys skills to interact with people and if it instills confidence in guys who are afraid they have no game. But the word "game" is part of the problem. When guys start to think about getting girls as prizes for winning the competition the idea goes too far. In fact these techniques actually hurt men, because they pretend to teach confidence but really they're teaching false security. Men aren't learning how to connect with women, they're learning how to trick women into thinking they're genuine, which may feel better at the club or bar, but is actually worse in the long run.