Meeting Friends & Lovers: My 13 Years Using the Personals
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Meeting Friends & Lovers: My 13 Years Using the Personals

Most of my favorite relationships in the 13 years since I've been divorced have come through personal ads.  Since I can ask directly for all the qualities I want when I place my ad, and since “collecting people”  is my favorite hobby, this way of finding special persons has worked well for me.  I've never found a perfect man--my ideal lover list contains 26 entries, from nonnegotiable items like playfulness, honesty and warmth,  to optional items like a hairy chest.  But I have found people who have remained close friends long after the romanc

Strange Brew:  The Craigslist Personals

Strange Brew: The Craigslist Personals

  If you ever find yourself completely bored AND horny AND without a date on a night when you REALLY want a date . . . . Then I sort of recommend checking out the Craigslist personals. Mind you, this is not a full fledge referral. In fact, based on my recent experience with answering a dozen advertisements on CL, I would have to say I’m only mildly lukewarm, half-heartedly encouraging you to try it. Want to know why? Because the men there are not really looking for what they say they want. I know—confused men on the Internet?—surprise!

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Are you, ahem, coming or going?

Relationship Fail: Let's Have Frequent Flyer Sex At The Airport

Airports are awful these days. They're crowded with people who aren't sure where they need to go and don't understand that you need to take your shoes off while going through security. And don't even get us started on the creepy pat-downs from complete strangers who get to do so because they're wearing uniforms...

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C'mon, you can't resist this offer!

Relationship Fail: I Want To Cheat On My Wife With You

Something tells us if you're looking to cheat without getting caught, you tread carefully. You don't shout it from the rooftops or joke about it with your friends. You also don't explicitly post your intentions on a free, easily accessible website like Craigslist. Well, this guy didn't get the memo.

lazy cow

Relationship Fail: Want To Date A "Lazy Cow"?

Online dating experts are always stressing that you should know how to sell yourself to a potential match. This means listing your best qualities in your profile and posting photos that make you look like a fabulous catch. This does not mean that you should refer to yourself as a "lazy cow."

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How To Date On Craigslist

Craigslist, the free online bulletin board, has had troubles lately (the recent Craigslist Killer comes to mind), but it also has an online personals section. One woman tries Craigslist dating and offers us her story—and advice. "I had to try something. Ahh, I thought. Craigslist is free—and anonymous. And my ex was trying it, why shouldn't I? I wondered what would happen if I posted a wish list online. Would it be possible to find just what I wanted?"

Love Buzz

Picky People Can Find Love, Too

Earlier this week, I wrote about a questionable Craigslist personal ad that a supposed "SWF "had posted, listing her highly specific requirements for a man. Thankfully, the ad—calling for a man with such particular qualities as owning three to five North Face items—was fake. Boinkology created the listing to test how well a neurotically picky woman would fare in the online dating sea. Apparently, the response was surprisingly positive.

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Is This Personal Ad Real?

This morning one New York woman—a veteran of every online dating site under the sun—posted a pièce de résistance of a personal ad on Craigslist. The title "SWF who isn't asking too much" was written (hopefully) with tongue firmly in cheek, as what follows is a list of more than 38 qualities her Mr. Right must have. That is, if you call owning "more than 3 items from The North Face jacket line but no more than 5" a quality. A few highlights from the reportedly 32-year-old single, white female's list: