Parents Are The Missing Link - A True Story  (EXPERT)
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Parents Are The Missing Link - A True Story (EXPERT)

You say that your child's happiness and mental health are your top concerns.  So what do you do when your child is depressed and hurting? Maybe hurting himself? Of course you get help.  There are therapists and counselors, in-patient and out-patient programs specifically for children and adolescents.  

Mike Rice's tough love
Is 'tough love' really love at all?
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Is Mike Rice's Tough Love The Right Parenting Strategy?

Mike Rice, the former coach of Rutgers University's men's basketball team, was fired for what some might describe as his 'tough love' form of coaching. But does this work as a parenting style? Does 'tough love' parenting raise responsible, well-behaved kids or does it simply emotionally cripple them?

How To Reduce Conflict With Your Kids (EXPERT)
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How To Reduce Conflict With Your Kids (EXPERT)

“You’ve got to accentuate the positive.”  (Song by Harold Arlen & Johnny Mercer, 1944)   A positive attitude (or even a less negative attitude) has the potential to change lives.  This old song lyric came to mind while reading The Roller-Coaster Years – Raising Your Child Through the Maddening Yet Magical Middle School Years (Gianetti & Sagarese).  This is a fascinating book for parents of 10-15-year-olds, and for parents who want a gl

6 Steps For Overcoming Obstacles With Teens
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6 Steps For Overcoming Obstacles With Teens

“Experience is what you get when you didn’t get what you wanted.  It’s a phrase worth considering at every brick wall we encounter, and at every disappointment.  It’s a reminder that failure is not just acceptable, it’s often essential.”  Randy Pausch, The Last Lecture

Set Reasonable Expectations & Watch Your Kids Soar
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Set Reasonable Expectations & Watch Your Kids Soar

What does raising the bar look like for you?  What expectations do you have for your children? Setting high expectations is a good thing, as long as the bar isn't out of reach. Some of the students I teach have trouble with organization and keeping track of assignments.  Meetings with parents of middle schoolers and guidance sometimes result in a long list of things the child is supposed to accomplish or master.

Lose The Lecture With Kids
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Lose The Lecture With Kids

You know when you're lecturing.  You can see it on your child's face. Or in the eye-rolling.  Or in the sigh.  They know what's coming after the first few sentences, proabably after the first few words. But you keep going because now they're being disrespectful and you're going to make your point if it's the last thing you do! You've been there. I've been there. Maybe you got that look or sigh from your partner, too.

Financial Literacy For Kids: Not Just About The Money
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Financial Literacy For Kids: Not Just About The Money

Now, more than ever, our kids need to know the value of a dollar (or peso, Euro, or yen).  In this time of what many would call the 'age of entitlement', knowing how to earn, save, and yes, how to spend, their money is crucial. It can be an allowance or a job, but there should be something.  If you give an allowance, when and how much is up to you.

Who's The Enforcer In Your Family?
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Who's The Enforcer In Your Family?

In a two-parent home, it's common for each of you to have different strengths and challenges when it comes to parenting. For example, one of you may be volatile, while the other is more even-tempered.  Or maybe your partner is consistent with discipline and you are the 'soft touch'. This happens all the time!  And then, of course, your teen manages to use it to his advantage.

Red Alert On Resolutions - Make Progress, Not Promises (EXPERT)
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Red Alert On Resolutions - Make Progress, Not Promises (EXPERT)

  A lot is written about resolutions.  My first thought is, DON'T MAKE THEM (but we won't really go there).  Most of us set out with lofty, admirable goals, and, quite frankly, without a clear way to accomplish them.  Time passes, and with it our good intentions lose momentum.  All too often, a feeling of guilt sets in.  "How difficult is it to...?" you ask yourself.  "I'm a smart person.  At work I am more than com