I often work with parents who report that they are struggling with gaining their childs cooperation and that their child doesn't "listen". Usually, when I ask for a specific example what I find out is that it is the parent who was not listening to the child, but not intentionally. Children, particularly younger ones, communicate through their behavior which is often misunderstood by their parents. Let me explain with an example. One weekend our family was out furniture shopping and my then 3 year old daughter needed to go to the restroom.
As a parent of a teen or tween, what could be better than more moments when your child wants to be close enough for a hug and to sit and talk to you? You’ve been told to expect the eye-rolling and attitude and pulling away when they hit the teen years. Yes, it’s normal for this to happen; however, it doesn’t mean it has to be this way, and that you have to suffer through it.
Anger is a powerful, strong emotion, so we need powerful, strong strategies to help release that anger. As adults, we need to have our anger strategies figured out before we attempt to figure that out with our own children. Then, we must remember that our children's emotions are their emotions, not ours.
©JudyHWright http://www.judyhwright.com We all have weaknesses that are hard to accept. Parents, teachers and caring adults see areas that need improvement in children and want to help them build confidence. The trick is to build confidence and acceptance without criticism and breaking the spirit. As I have mentioned in previous articles and books, “Soar with Your Strengths.”
No matter how old your children are, even if they are adult professionals, it is never too late to connect and build strong relationships. These tips are simple but effective ways to communicate your love and support and to celebrate loving connections.
They are extremely stressed out - One of the biggest issues facing teens is not necessarily grades, peer pressure,parents, or drugs/alcohol, its stress. They wake up with stress, live with stress, then go to sleep with stress. Teens stress about everything that goes on each day. They stress about college, they stress about how they look, they stress about failing, they stress about their friends, the list goes on. Furthermore, stress directly impacts their level of confidence.
A Phoenix mother has been arrested after authorities say she put beer in her 2-year-old son's sippy cup.
Most parents REALLY want to be good parents. But since it is rare for parents to take parenting classes or heal their childhood issues before becoming parents, we inadvertently do lots of things to mess up our kids. This tongue-in-cheek article may help you to see what you are doing! 1. Ignore the crying
"The attitude you have as a parent is what your kids will learn from more than what you tell them. They don't remember what you try to teach them. They remember what you are." ~Jim Henson, 1936-1990, Creator of The Muppets Half of good parenting is being there for your children and the other half is being there for yourself. What would you have given as you were growing up to have had parents who role-modeled taking loving care of their feelings, their health, their finances, their environment?
When parents think about discipline, all too often they equate discipline with punishment. Whoa … not so fast! 'What's wrong with punishment?' you may wonder. Well, punishment is costly. It results in kids feeling badly, both about themselves and about you. And is it effective? Not very.
As a parent, it is vitally important that you have a sense of passion and purpose in your life, separate from your children. And, it is essential that you learn to define your own sense of worth, rather than making your children's behavior responsible for this. It is too big a burden for children to be the center of your life.
Power struggles over homework plague many families. Parents worry, wanting their children to do well. Believing that encouragement, praise, explanations, setting limits, and even threats, anger and punishment are well-meaning, deserved, necessary and loving, parents often interact with their children in ways that lead to the very problems they want to avoid.
Your teen leaves his dirty clothes all over the house. Instead of getting into another fight with him or nagging him to pick them up, you do it for him. It’s easier, right? Your daughter with ADD is having problems completing her science project. She can’t seem to focus and complains that it’s boring and too difficult. After she goes to sleep, you finish it for her. After all, you don’t want her to fail.
Shortly after a meeting with a fortune teller, a British woman locked her children in their rooms, confiscated their lightbulbs, toys and mattresses and later made two of them work as slaves for Roma people, otherwise known as gypsies, prosecutors said.
People often joke that, despite our best efforts not to, we grow up to mirror the habits and behaviors of our parents. Unfortunately, this age-old concept now stretches even further, and it may be affecting romantic relationships.
By Barbara Greenberg, PhD, Teen Parenting Expert Yep, we all do it. So let's have a little fun looking at our "parent fails"- those moments of parenting gone awry where we had the best of intentions but no guide to tell us exactly what to do. Those "oh no, did I just do that or say that? moments are inevitable if you are a parent who is deeply immersed in the parenting game. And, during this game wrong and awkward moves are bound to happen, REPEATEDLY.