Does your child's behavior, the choices he or she makes, and fears about how he will turn out weigh you down, making you feel like it's all somehow a reflection on you? When our kids don't act in ways we think they should, it's natural to feel anxious and responsible; we're only human. But, when we do this, we stop seeing the boundary between where we end and where our child begins. We become fused with them.
The most powerful way to teach children how to create healthy relationships is through your relationships with them. Here are 10 things you can do to help your children learn the art of relationships:
Do you have to like or love someone to be considerate, kind and courteous? The answer to that question is simply- No. You can be respectful without agreeing with, or even liking another person. One reason this is such a vital life skill for our children, is for the rest of their lives they will need to interact with, work with and deal with people they may feel are unpleasant. At a young age we begin to establish our own boundaries.
Do you sacrifice your own needs in order to satisfy your kids? You may have your priorities all wrong. In this video, Hypnotherapist, Psychologist and YourTango Expert Dr. Shoshana Bennett says that contrary to what many parents believe, it isn't selfish to put your own needs first. "Selfishness implies that something is happening at someone else's expense," she explains. When you put your own needs before your kids, you're not harming them at all ... quite the opposite, in fact.
As if divorce isn't hard enough, what's a parent supposed to to when his or her ex is spoiling their kids with gifts in a shameless attempt to buy their love and loyalty? In this video, Family/Relationship Therapist, Bestselling Author and YourTango Expert Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil explains how very common this unfortunate experience is and what you can do when it happens to you.
Lets admit it. Being mom to a teen who is growing into an adult can be intimidating. Add in the hormones, typical teen attitude problems, and maybe a bit of teen insecurity, and you have a recipe for disaster. I’ve been talking to a number of moms lately who sometimes feel downright afraid of their teenager. If this describes you, please keep reading.
With more than one billion mobile users worldwide – and many of those users accessing the internet exclusively from a mobile device – we figured it was time we went mobile! A little deeper digging turned up the fact that fully 25% or more of visitors to the HOPE Coaching site were using mobile devices exclusively. Wow! So… we’re going mobile!
You probably spent weeks making sure that you had the right car seat, the best stroller, the appropriate clothes and nursery for your child. It takes time and effort to make informed decisions about parenting and about our child’s environment. Today, I would like to ask you to consider an aspect of your child’s environment that you may not have thought about. What is your child’s “sonic environment?” What sounds are they surrounded by? How safe are their toys?
Using a musical cue for sleep with your baby and young child can be a wonderful way to help your child know when it is time to sleep. It also serves as a way for them to enter sleep more easily and is a wonderful tool to build a bedtime routine around.
Parenting teens who are exploring romance can be frustrating, confusing, and can challenge your ability to be flexible. Your dream of watching your teenager meet and fall in love with a wonderful person may be turned on its ear as you watch them struggle - and get their heart broken. With teenagers hitting puberty sometimes as young as age ten, their hormones are getting turned “on” earlier, and they’re likely interested in dating before they have the emotional resources in place to handle it.
An Old Chinese Proverb states, "Parents who are afraid to put their foot down usually have children who tread on their toes." Clearly some form of structure is needed to keep the peace and limit the chaos. With these 3 powerful parenting secrets, you do not need to yell or scold, but you do need to be consistent and firm.
It is well established that free play is vital to the development of our children. You may be wondering what you can do at home to help. How do we cultivate creativity and a sense of play in our children? Here are some ideas. With Babies: 1) Play the musical face game. Assign each part of the face or the body a sound and then “play” those sounds as you touch them. This is a great way to get rid of the crankies! Watch my how to video from our musical parenting course here.
Since the 1970s, tough love has received a great deal of attention. It's all about creating tough consequences for teens when they make irresponsible or dangerous decisions. Sadly, the term has been used to describe a parenting style that often resembles bully behavior. Parents are struggling with their parenting voice – trying to find a way to be effective parents with teens who are making poor choices. They need help practicing tough love by creating healthy boundaries and external controls for children who are unable to do this for themselves.
Teenagers are amazing. They’re tough, they’re needy. They laugh at their friends’ awful jokes, then look at you like you’re from some other planet. They can’t sleep or sleep too much. They’re far more sensitive than they let on, but won’t ever admit it. They take risks with no thought for consequences, insist that pizza is a major food group, take “stands” on issues that you don’t think are important, and expect mom to be taxi-therapist-cheerleader-nurse while never giving you enough information.
Getting tired of the constant battles with your teenager? You are not alone! Parenting teens is one of the toughest jobs in the universe, and you often struggle with how best to create healthy relationships, enforce good boundaries, and help your teen as they navigate through this challenging growing up process. Parenting teenagers can make you question your parenting ability, push all your emotional "buttons", and create a home atmosphere of overwhelming stress.
'New Year's Eve' has an ensemble cast of some of the biggest names in Hollywood — Halle Berry, Robert De Niro, Hilary Swank and Sarah Jessica Parker, to name a few. But boy, does this movie suck.
If you’re in your 40s or 50s and you have kids in the house, you’re probably familiar with what I like to call “dueling hormones.” This is that ever-so-special time when mom is going through perimenopause and menopause, and her kids are going through puberty, all under the same roof. With all these hormonal fluctuations happening at once, things can get more than a little hectic!