I often work with parents who report that they are struggling with gaining their childs cooperation and that their child doesn't "listen". Usually, when I ask for a specific example what I find out is that it is the parent who was not listening to the child, but not intentionally. Children, particularly younger ones, communicate through their behavior which is often misunderstood by their parents. Let me explain with an example. One weekend our family was out furniture shopping and my then 3 year old daughter needed to go to the restroom.
One of the most damaging things you can do to your child is to use them as an object of your anger. Here is a list of dos and don'ts that can assist you in parenting in a way that best protects your children while you are going through your divorce.
It was a typical Sunday morning in our house. My husband woke up at 8 a.m., made coffee and went outside to cut the grass. The kids were sleeping and I was sitting in bed reading a magazine. My son, Jacob, woke about ten minutes later, just as I was getting into the good part of an article — typical when you have a 5-year-old. Two minutes later, my 3-year-old daughter, Lindsay, found her way into our bed, as well. I tickled their stomachs. We had a pillow fight and we laughed and laughed. It became what we call in our house a "cuddle fest." It was the best moment of my week. Little did I know that three hours later, I would experience the worst moment of my life.
As a parent of a teen or tween, what could be better than more moments when your child wants to be close enough for a hug and to sit and talk to you? You’ve been told to expect the eye-rolling and attitude and pulling away when they hit the teen years. Yes, it’s normal for this to happen; however, it doesn’t mean it has to be this way, and that you have to suffer through it.
This just in. According to a new survey by the CDC (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention) more teens are using condoms these days. The new survey,which was just released, reports that 60% of sexually active teens report using a condom. Although, we would prefer this number to be much higher, it reflects a 14% increase compared to statistics collected over a 20 year period. The bad news is that the number is lower than the high of 63% of sexually active teens who used condoms in 2003.
According to a study by psychologists Christy Starr and Gail Ferguson at Knox College in Galesburg, Illinois, which was published in the journal Sex Roles, young girls value the concept of "sexiness." Specifically, 60 girls were each shown two dolls — one of which was dressed in sexy clothing while the other doll was dressed in a loose yet trendy outfit. The girls were then asked to select the doll that they wanted to look like, the doll that they already looked like, the doll that they wanted to play with and the doll that looked like she would be popular in school.
©JudyHWright http://www.judyhwright.com We all have weaknesses that are hard to accept. Parents, teachers and caring adults see areas that need improvement in children and want to help them build confidence. The trick is to build confidence and acceptance without criticism and breaking the spirit. As I have mentioned in previous articles and books, “Soar with Your Strengths.”
My son is 15 years old and during the past month I have walked in to my home while he was masturbating in the living room. Just yesterday, he fell asleep after doing it on his bed with the door open. I am also noticing lotion or spray on his shirts. I do not know how to handle this. Should I confront him about it?
Oh yes, I am going to add even more material to the working outside of the home versus the stay at home mothers' debate.. I never intended to add to this already vitriolic debate but a very interesting question was posed to me. And, as always I can't resist an interesting question,so here goes.
They are extremely stressed out - One of the biggest issues facing teens is not necessarily grades, peer pressure,parents, or drugs/alcohol, its stress. They wake up with stress, live with stress, then go to sleep with stress. Teens stress about everything that goes on each day. They stress about college, they stress about how they look, they stress about failing, they stress about their friends, the list goes on. Furthermore, stress directly impacts their level of confidence.
Summer road trips can be lots of fun but can also be risky. Consider the results of a Canadian study. According to a new survey conducted in Ontario,Canada by Angus Reid for Insurance Hunter,an online insurance quotes provider- parent drivers may be dangerously exhausted behind the wheel. The survey found that by the time many parents got on the road they were already tired. In fact, 30% of fathers and 14% of mothers reported nodding off while driving on family road trips. These are alarmingly high percentages.
Most parents REALLY want to be good parents. But since it is rare for parents to take parenting classes or heal their childhood issues before becoming parents, we inadvertently do lots of things to mess up our kids. This tongue-in-cheek article may help you to see what you are doing! 1. Ignore the crying
Stress Triggers for Kids How do you know what is stress and what is a temper tantrum? How do you figure out if the stomachache is from too many tacos last night or the math test scheduled today? Why would your six year old be stressed when you are the one who lost the job? Why would your eight year old suddenly hate Little League and begin wheezing as it nears time to go? At times all parents are confused by what are normal growing pains and what is a genuine fear or stress in their child’s life.
"The attitude you have as a parent is what your kids will learn from more than what you tell them. They don't remember what you try to teach them. They remember what you are." ~Jim Henson, 1936-1990, Creator of The Muppets Half of good parenting is being there for your children and the other half is being there for yourself. What would you have given as you were growing up to have had parents who role-modeled taking loving care of their feelings, their health, their finances, their environment?
When parents think about discipline, all too often they equate discipline with punishment. Whoa … not so fast! 'What's wrong with punishment?' you may wonder. Well, punishment is costly. It results in kids feeling badly, both about themselves and about you. And is it effective? Not very.