Raising a teenager isn't easy, but the more you put off with doing so, the harder it will become.
I apologize in advance if I offend anyone, but sometimes the truth hurts and I am going to be completely honest here. I, Michelle Smith IAT, CPD have not only been a babysitter and nanny for over 14 years myself, but as the owner of Embracing Babies Staffing Agency I refer babysitters and nannies out to parent clients for my business.
Mike Rice, the former coach of Rutgers University's men's basketball team, was fired for what some might describe as his 'tough love' form of coaching. But does this work as a parenting style? Does 'tough love' parenting raise responsible, well-behaved kids or does it simply emotionally cripple them?
We love our kids. Year after year, we do anything to give them every advantage in the world and nudge them toward the life of their dreams. This is often at the cost of our personal time and relationships. So many parents feel like they have put their life on hold to put all their available energy and resources into their kids.
My son was 3 and bath time meant time with 40 floating toys, lots of bubbles and his snorkeling mask. It also meant I could make dinner 15 feet away in relative peace. It was an evening ritual that worked for both of us. One night he yelled from the tub, “Mommy! Mommy!
If you have come to the realization that you’re gay and you’ve got kids, I’m sure you are stressed and worried about the impact it could have on your kids AND you are probably wondering what your experience will be like as a gay parent. Therefore, I thought it would be helpful to talk about specific age groups and what the experiences can be like for both you and your kids.
Parents are expert Jugglers. With all the balls to keep in the air - from academics to sports, social events to finding time to sit down together for a meal - its no wonder we get into playing the Blame Game with a spouse or co-parent when something from our schedule *Splats* on the ground. There IS another way. Effectively implementing one single tool is a sure-fire way to save you friction with your fellow co-parent (current or ex), and have you and your family accomplishing more with less stress.
Question: My question is a little unique. I am considering remarriage to a wonderful man, however; I have a daughter who is legally blind, and she has a beautiful 3- year-old daughter. If I remarry, I would be moving out of state. My daughter is not anywhere near being self sufficient and I am not going to just abandon her. My fiancé has said that he would wait as long as it takes for me to help my daughter become independent. Neither my fiancé nor I have plans to break up if this process does not move as fast as we had hoped.
Adults love to give kids warnings when a rule is broken and would love to believe warnings are a highly compassionate method of parenting, a reflection of our loving and kind humanity. But guess what? Warnings may be the farthest thing from true compassion. Though almost always well-intentioned, warnings will routinely backfire. Here are the main reasons why:
“As I grew into my adolescence, I began to associate sex with sin; I imagine this had to do with being surrounded in a conservative religion in my home, church and school. My attitude about sex and sexuality was that it was something that only married or sinful people engaged in. Other than that I did not have much information – and because I was shy – the only place I got information about sex and sexuality was from TV, magazines and books”.
If you know your child is being bullied, start by taking a deep breath. Your first instinct may be to charge in and do something to protect your child. However, your goal should be to help your child protect herself as much as possible, which will take some planning and understanding.
A few years ago I was waiting in a doctor's office and, having forgotten to bring the parenting book I was studying, was at the mercy of Muzak. One of the songs that came on was a Céline Dion hit written by Diane Warren, "Because You Loved Me." I listened to the words—yes, I was bored!—and was put off by what I heard as sappy co-dependency between lovers:
When I was a child, it seemed like every adult in my zip code had an uncanny skill for making a “mountain out of a molehill.” In other words, of taking the smallest shred of negativity and amplifying all the tyranny and rottenness that shred of negativity may have implied. Before I go any further, let me give credit where credit is due. Exaggeration—the ability to weave a grand story out of next to nothing—is a very creative endeavor. It takes a keen eye, creative determination, and a lofty ability to wax poetic on all that is wrong.