Sex Tips For People with Disabilities and Chronic Conditions
A disability or chronic condition, whether it results in muscle weakness, pain, paralysis, or loss of sensation doesn’t necessarily have to cripple your sex life. Some impairments will directly affect your sexual functioning in a negative way, but fortunately there are treatments available. Others will indirectly affect your sexual life by throwing a monkey wrench into your usual sexual routine or messing with your head. Many will do both. Communication, creativity, and adaptive equipment are all key ingredients in creating accessible sex.
Are you enduring pain during sex or avoiding it altogether? Try these tips for pain-free sex.
One of the main complaints that causes couples to seek sex counseling is lack of sex. There are many reasons couples don't enjoy sex anymore. Marital conflict, depression, and stress all affect libido. One of the rarely-discussed but main reasons couples aren't having sex is because it is painful. When a woman talks about painful sex, the first thing a health care worker will think of is prescribing lubricants. This may alleviate the pain, and may cure the problem, but there are many factors that can contribute to painful sex besides dryness.
Painful sex? Trouble reaching orgasm? What these sexual problems could mean for your health.
A satisfying sex life can be a source of comfort and joy. When it's neither comfortable nor joyful, however, don't automatically blame your mate. Maybe your body is trying to tell you something.
Real talk from Meagan, who thought her sex life was over at age 23.
By Meagan McCrary
Sex is a topic that most of us can't help talking about. It’s not the guys who share intimate details of their latest conquest with their buddies — it’s the ladies. Most women love to gab about their sexcapades. And when we do, we typically don’t hold anything back.
Sex can be painful for men, too. Here's how--and what to do about it
Most men know that women sometimes experience pain during sex. But many women don’t know that men can experience pain during sex, too. And I don’t just mean the emotional pain of not getting an erection or of climaxing quickly.
A small number of men experience pain during sex for serious reasons, ranging from syphilis to an infection in the prostate or urethra. It’s a rare guy who will proceed with sex when it brings that kind of misery. But other reasons that sex can hurt are far more common, even if they’re not quite so serious.
A post-coital stroke can sometimes occur after vigorous lovin'.
By now, I'm sure you've heard the tale of the English nanny who, essentially, whacked off to death. No? OK, sordid story short, a 30-year-old woman from Merry Olde England suffered some sort of arrhythmic disaster likely brought on by exposure to pornography and use of a vibrating sexual aid. More or less, she was found with said device and her computer open to the kind of content that male comedians always worry about being found with were they to die very unexpectedly. Sad indeed-y.
How one woman refuses to let a painful sexual disorder ruin her sex life.
There's been a lot of talk lately about women's sexual health. Either we're not doing it, or we don't feel like doing it, or don't like the feel of doing it. I fall squarely into that third category, because when it comes to matters of the old in-and-out, my girl parts are afraid of boy parts. Sounds ridiculous, I know. But I have a doctor's note.
My condition is called vaginismus. It's basically a gag reflex for your downstairs, or like the mythical vagina dentata, but without the badass peen-chomping teeth. It's goes a little something like this: Say I'm about to get down to business with my best guy. We're hot, we're heavy, we're headed to the bedroom. All casual-like he sidles his yang on up to my yin, and at the first whiff of that quivering member, we have a lockdown situation. My cooter shuts up tighter than a Chinese finger trap. Nothing's getting in. Not nobody, not no how.
What happens when a fundamental piece of your relationship is excruciating?
Imagine your significant other: boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse, favorite goat. Now, picture not being able to have sex—not because you're uninterested in sex, not because you're separated by oceans and continents, connected only by steamy emails. Instead, sex feels like a dull, rusty steak knife being twisted and jabbed where no dull, rusty steak knife belongs. Doctors can't seem to diagnose it, much less treat it. Bleak, isn't it? When I was 24, sex just hurt, for no discernible reason. Eight long months later, I learned I had a condition known as vulvodynia, a medical term which roughly translates to "no sex for you, missy."... Painful sex wasn't what made the headlines in popular media. I didn't know it existed. My doctors didn't know it existed. Yet, statistics show that as many as one woman in six might suffer from vulvodynia in her lifetime, often thanks to unknown causes.
From NewsMax
Sex is supposed to be enjoyable, but for countless women suffering from vulvodynia, that’s not the case. Characterized by pain or discomfort with sexual intercourse, rawness, stinging, itching and burning in the vagina or vulva, vulvodynia is a common condition, but it is often undiagnosed or misdiagnosed.
“The symptoms of vulvodynia mimic those of other, common vulvovaginal infections,” explains Christin Veasley, associate executive director of the National Vulvodynia Association in Silver Spring, Md. “Women are routinely and incorrectly told that they have a yeast or bacterial infection over and over again.”
